Health Depression

DemurePrincess said:
What so you can be miserable somewhere else besides where you are now?

That kinda makes no sense mate because your brain is still gonna be thinking these thoughts so the thinking pattern needs to be fixed not the location and it sounds like it’s your job that you despise that much that’s making you feel so negative towards everything. I don’t know what to suggest But I can only be here to listen but unless you make changes. You’ll be stuck in this rut forever.

Anyway, keep talking it out. I’m heading to my fourth ****ing job for the day so yahoo.
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No you're right. Drastic changes are needed.
I accept I'll always be miserable but it's either change or death or worse.
I'll just be content and miserable if the change works
 
Run n Spread said:
It's fine I do feel a little better reading back.
I have a lot of problems.
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And it’s okay to voice them but once you do… people start to worry bc they care. Well I know I do!

I would really hate for you to do something dumb and I was helpless too it so I’ll keep talking as long as you do!
Deal 🤝
 
Soldier Of Misfortune said:
Gotta say I have BIG empathy on this. 9 to 5 is not natural. It can be ridiculously hard for some people. Definitely never accept that it's just the way that things are. Living aside from it can take some creativity though because we're not encouraged to look elsewhere than the grind.
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Honestly it really depends what you do for a living as work can be very fulfilling
Me I’m a builder and there is a lot of job satisfaction in building nice places and thee joy that comes with fulfilling people’s dreams ( for their housing at least 😁)

Now there were life decisions over 30 years that meant I was doing the type of building that gave me satisfaction,( creative , unique , inspiring …… lots of buzz words ) point is I didn’t choose to pursue the pop up mass produced market , it’s easier, but there’s no job satisfaction in it for me .

Point is it doesn’t matter what it is , you need to enjoy doing it .
A nurse helping people get better
A mechanic fixing someone’s car getting them back on the road
An accountant saving their clients some tax or providing good investment advice
A cop or counseller removing someone from an abusive relationship enabling them to get on with their lives

Whatever, work is good for your soul !
Not working can lead to a very self centred life I think and I can vouch for that from a few people I know who’ve chosen that lifestyle.

Gotta find the balance though and enjoy the fruits of your labour .
 
raskolnikov said:
Does anyone else ever get the temptation to just pack everything up and go and start again somewhere else? The temptation for me is so strong right now.

I'm not really feeling depressed. I just want more than the current 9-5 drudgery and spending my weekends mowing my lawns and cleaning my house.
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So I've decided to take the plunge.

I've got my house on the market and when it sells I am going to buy a caravan or motorhome and travel around Australia relief teaching, until my super kicks in at 60. It will mean I'm debt free, not feel like I'm tied down to a particular place, which has always been a source of depression for me and I can take my doggies with me. I know it won't cure all my ills but I feel I will love this lifestyle. Really at peace with this decision, which I wasn't with any of the other options I considered.
 
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raskolnikov said:
So I've decided to take the plunge.

I've got my house on the market and when it sells I am going to buy a caravan or motorhome and travel around Australia relief teaching, until my super kicks in at 60. It will mean I'm debt free, not feel like I'm tied down to a particular place, which has always been a source of depression for me and I can take my doggies with me. I know it won't cure all my ills but I feel I will love this lifestyle. Really at peace with this decision, which I wasn't with any of the other options I considered.
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This is absolutely amazing news.

To be a grey nomad….. absolutely sensational and think of the things you will see and places you will visit and the people you will meet around Australia at your own leisure ❤️

Love this for you 🫶🏻
 
raskolnikov said:
So I've decided to take the plunge.

I've got my house on the market and when it sells I am going to buy a caravan or motorhome and travel around Australia relief teaching, until my super kicks in at 60. It will mean I'm debt free, not feel like I'm tied down to a particular place, which has always been a source of depression for me and I can take my doggies with me. I know it won't cure all my ills but I feel I will love this lifestyle. Really at peace with this decision, which I wasn't with any of the other options I considered.
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Have you considered the implications for your pension? Unfortunately because of australias ridiculous tax system it rarely makes sense to give up your home for mostly cash. Caravans dont cost that much. Especially if you are going to keep working.
 
Seeds said:
Have you considered the implications for your pension? Unfortunately because of australias ridiculous tax system it rarely makes sense to give up your home for mostly cash. Caravans dont cost that much. Especially if you are going to keep working.
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Not really sure what you mean. Do you mean paying tax on the proceeds of the sale? I didn't think you paid tax on property if it was your main place of residence? Or do you mean I won't get the pension when I'm 67 if I have too much money in the bank? That doesn't really worry me. I have enough super to be a self-funded retiree.
 
raskolnikov said:
So I've decided to take the plunge.

I've got my house on the market and when it sells I am going to buy a caravan or motorhome and travel around Australia relief teaching, until my super kicks in at 60. It will mean I'm debt free, not feel like I'm tied down to a particular place, which has always been a source of depression for me and I can take my doggies with me. I know it won't cure all my ills but I feel I will love this lifestyle. Really at peace with this decision, which I wasn't with any of the other options I considered.
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Good for you Rask we spend a lot of time procrastinating about doing things and then looking back with hindsight. We bought a bargain motorhome a few years ago as our retirement investment and can’t wait to use it more. Plenty of relief teaching here in the Murraylands (my son did placement at Murray Bridge high last year and 25% of the teaching staff were away for various reasons during his placement), I’ll even give you free power on my property if you head this way.
 
MP_ said:
Good for you Rask we spend a lot of time procrastinating about doing things and then looking back with hindsight. We bought a bargain motorhome a few years ago as our retirement investment and can’t wait to use it more. Plenty of relief teaching here in the Murraylands (my son did placement at Murray Bridge high last year and 25% of the teaching staff were away for various reasons during his placement), I’ll even give you free power on my property if you head this way.
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Cheers MP_

A good mate of mine and his wife just moved to Murray Bridge. So I'm sure I'll be in that area at some stage.
 
raskolnikov said:
Cheers MP_

A good mate of mine and his wife just moved to Murray Bridge. So I'm sure I'll be in that area at some stage.
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Oh wow, I work in Murray Bridge.
 
I’d like to share my story in hopes it could inspire or help someone in a similar (or not) situation.

So when I was in high school I started seeking validation from older men. To the point where the police had to get involved. I still remember that day so vividly. It felt like the end of the world and this had me in a depressive spiral. A toxic load of depression and anxiety to the point where I was bed rotting because I was too scared to leave the house and I gained 10 kgs, which for an extremely active person is very concerning (for my standards anyways).

I spoke to a few councillors but I never committed because I didn’t feel anything. I have also trauma blocked most things and can’t remember lmfaooo

The way I got out of this sort of rut was to just do what I enjoyed before which was working out and sports. A year before the police came knocking at my door I’d decided to stop playing soccer and switch to footy. The more I started exercising the more I felt better and had better control of my life again.

I got back into routines and made lifelong friends. And I got my first gig working at Myer.

Fast forward to 2023, I got offered a VFLW contract and had a good season. Last year, I went back to soccer and landed my first 9-5 job 😅 had a setback in not passing the psych test for another job just before going to Japan but I have learnt to never give up!

This year I’m back playing footy again, met life long friends, went to a run club, training for a half marathon too!

What happen to me will unfortunately never leave me but doing things you love really helps you to enjoy life a bit more :)
 
Ligma said:
I’d like to share my story in hopes it could inspire or help someone in a similar (or not) situation.

So when I was in high school I started seeking validation from older men. To the point where the police had to get involved. I still remember that day so vividly. It felt like the end of the world and this had me in a depressive spiral. A toxic load of depression and anxiety to the point where I was bed rotting because I was too scared to leave the house and I gained 10 kgs, which for an extremely active person is very concerning (for my standards anyways).

I spoke to a few councillors but I never committed because I didn’t feel anything. I have also trauma blocked most things and can’t remember lmfaooo

The way I got out of this sort of rut was to just do what I enjoyed before which was working out and sports. A year before the police came knocking at my door I’d decided to stop playing soccer and switch to footy. The more I started exercising the more I felt better and had better control of my life again.

I got back into routines and made lifelong friends. And I got my first gig working at Myer.

Fast forward to 2023, I got offered a VFLW contract and had a good season. Last year, I went back to soccer and landed my first 9-5 job 😅 had a setback in not passing the psych test for another job just before going to Japan but I have learnt to never give up!

This year I’m back playing footy again, met life long friends, went to a run club, training for a half marathon too!

What happen to me will unfortunately never leave me but doing things you love really helps you to enjoy life a bit more :)
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Wow! Thanks for sharing! That’s a pretty horrible thing to happen to anyone and I hope you keep kicking goals bc that’s what life is all about. Stumbling over hurdles but picking ourselves up, brushing off the dirt and keep going. 👊🏻
 
Bit of a random blurghh post so bear with me

Lost my Mum middle of last year after quick cancer fight which rocked my world, haven't been same since trying to do a bit of work and just try coast through life for a bit but feel like that doesn't work, you have to stay busy and fill your calendar but easier said when you got no energy or care

Looking forward to the Footy seasons starting for a bit of distraction

Cant believe I joined this forum as a teen am 33 in May....keep your head up legends life's a random trip!
 
I've just realised in life I'm humoured.
I'm not really taken seriously or listened to and it's a personality issue. I'm just not taken seriously or listened to. Probably just vibes and genetics
I'm too weird to fit in. I'm apparently adhd autistic aspergers an addict or whatever shit label is thrown. And been ,"helpfully" diagnosed many times
Ultimately just don't relate.
And yet again dealing with some crisis that I never saw coming because my personality apparently didn't see it.
I mean ****.
It's the weekend I should be enjoying life
 
Hu$tler said:
Bit of a random blurghh post so bear with me

Lost my Mum middle of last year after quick cancer fight which rocked my world, haven't been same since trying to do a bit of work and just try coast through life for a bit but feel like that doesn't work, you have to stay busy and fill your calendar but easier said when you got no energy or care

Looking forward to the Footy seasons starting for a bit of distraction

Cant believe I joined this forum as a teen am 33 in May....keep your head up legends life's a random trip!
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Yeah I'm looking forward to the footy. First time I've had a genuine interest since probably 2019
 
Ligma said:
I’d like to share my story in hopes it could inspire or help someone in a similar (or not) situation.

So when I was in high school I started seeking validation from older men. To the point where the police had to get involved. I still remember that day so vividly. It felt like the end of the world and this had me in a depressive spiral. A toxic load of depression and anxiety to the point where I was bed rotting because I was too scared to leave the house and I gained 10 kgs, which for an extremely active person is very concerning (for my standards anyways).

I spoke to a few councillors but I never committed because I didn’t feel anything. I have also trauma blocked most things and can’t remember lmfaooo

The way I got out of this sort of rut was to just do what I enjoyed before which was working out and sports. A year before the police came knocking at my door I’d decided to stop playing soccer and switch to footy. The more I started exercising the more I felt better and had better control of my life again.

I got back into routines and made lifelong friends. And I got my first gig working at Myer.

Fast forward to 2023, I got offered a VFLW contract and had a good season. Last year, I went back to soccer and landed my first 9-5 job 😅 had a setback in not passing the psych test for another job just before going to Japan but I have learnt to never give up!

This year I’m back playing footy again, met life long friends, went to a run club, training for a half marathon too!

What happen to me will unfortunately never leave me but doing things you love really helps you to enjoy life a bit more :)
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That's awesome good on you

I could never play Aussie rules, first of all the running would literally kill me and also the skills involved.
 

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