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Very interesting as always Pammy. The investigation of the APOE gene is fascinating.

I'm approaching a milestone birthday this year and having serious thoughts about the last years of my life - however long that is - and what sort of a burden I choose to be (or not to be, that is the question 😉). Alzheimer's and associated senile conditions really do concern me and as I'm watching the aged parents of friends of mine seriously deteriorate I'm conscious of not wanting to be that emotional and physical drain for my offspring.
 

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Very interesting as always Pammy. The investigation of the APOE gene is fascinating.

I'm approaching a milestone birthday this year and having serious thoughts about the last years of my life - however long that is - and what sort of a burden I choose to be (or not to be, that is the question 😉). Alzheimer's and associated senile conditions really do concern me and as I'm watching the aged parents of friends of mine seriously deteriorate I'm conscious of not wanting to be that emotional and physical drain for my offspring.
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Uh huh, that Birthday...I know the one, when you realise you're closer to 80 than 40 and 40 seemed not so long ago.

The 'not wanting to be a burden'.
I'm really disliking this cliche, of modern inhumanities.
I know this is an ageist society and this cliche comes from that.
It is difficut getting old, I'm having a difficult and painful time with my 93yo Dad & 87yo Mum atm and it won't get any easier, however it is what it is.
These difficulties while burdensom are also the family compact.

Bob Dylan is still alive, getting busy dying, for a long time now.

In the end as at the beginning, life was always fragile.
Stardust Memories.
 
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That's a great photo. Never seen it before. Beautifully quirky.
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I have bleery memories of it.
Research tells me it was: "it was next to that smaller Hoyts, just near the corner of Bourke and Russell. The larger Hoyts was a little further up the Bourke St hill."
In other words down from the Southern Cross Hotel opposite side.
 

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The 'not wanting to be a burden'.
I'm really disliking this cliche, of modern inhumanities.
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I understand this and appreciate this position.

I haven't had to go through tending to aged parents. By the time I was 32 all of my close relatives had died. I had no siblings either so the concept of aged care has come from the bottom up (if you will) rather than the top down experience of caring for aged relatives. It's a conversation I'm preparing to have with my offspring.
 
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I understand this and appreciate this position.

I haven't had to go through tending to aged parents. By the time I was 32 all of my close relatives had died. I had no siblings either so the concept of aged care has come from the bottom up (if you will) rather than the top down experience of caring for aged relatives. It's a conversation I'm preparing to have with my offspring.
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In preparation for realities, what is needs to be sorted is medical power of attorney, financial power of attorney and a non-resuscitation/no extreme last meassures directive in place then Mogs.
I feel for you having no siblings, they may be pains at times but it does help to have the pack that has the same-ish history.

My Dad has always said just leave me in a tin shed and forget about me I don't want to be a burden on anyone.
That would be called elder abuse. He is in denial without the above in place (tin shed or POA's & EOLM).
He has some superstition that if he does all of those incredibly practical things, that that will be the end and unfortunately for us (I have 3 full sibs and 2 half bros of a different generation) it will make things difficult as it did this year already.
The thing is that he absolutely refuses to do an 'ACAS' assessment for future needs and is being very noncooperative, threatening that he will do himself in before 'going into a home'. No point in my trying yet again to explain that an ACAS assessment would be of benefit as he just gets bloody angry.
 
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In preparation for realities, what is needs to be sorted is medical power of attorney, financial power of attorney and a non-resuscitation/no extreme last meassures directive in place then Mogs.
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I did the first two when the youngest turned 18. I'm certainly not planning on going anywhere just yet, so the third one will be done if things really did go south.

Sorry about your dad. Non cooperation would be awful for those affected by it. Take care.
 

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