Family & Relationships Mates with babies

[Simple Jack]

Why disadvantage parents with the kids that know how to behave, they should not be excluded from special family occasions etc just because some parents can't parent.

Make this standard practice and the idiot parents will either book elsewhere or learn to manage their kids unacceptable behaviour.

I would love a restaurant to advertise this policy. I think they would win more business than they lose.

Yeah tend to agree. I used to hate getting discriminated against purely due to age. I had a pilots licence before I was allowed to drive (oh, the difficulty ) in Victoria. Subsequently went to a different state to get it.

If kids can behave, they shouldn't be excluded based on a lazy rule.

*Btw, I'm strongly in the 'eugh, kids.' camp.

 

[Scotland]

What is this? 1990?

Still going strong with 5 restaurants in Perth, let alone the 3 in NSW or the 15 (!) in Queensland...

 

[raff23]

If you're already hooked up then why would you want to bother with a party anyway (unless you're a swinger and in this case its probably best to not invite the kids). Just get a couple of your mates together, a whole lot of alcohol (and other things if that's your thing) and just drink the night away. Parties are boring if its not about hooking up with a random. And who hires a DJ to some random party? Sounds like you're either under the thumb of some chick or a swinger. The Ambrose avatar makes me think the latter.

Dont get why you have to have an engagement party anyway, have a get together with your close mates with a few drinks to celebrate, make the family gathering a private affair and be done with it. The OP clearly has lots of money and time on his hands.

 

[Flash of power]

Yeah tend to agree. I used to hate getting discriminated against purely due to age. I had a pilots licence before I was allowed to drive (oh, the difficulty ) in Victoria. Subsequently went to a different state to get it.

If kids can behave, they shouldn't be excluded based on a lazy rule.

*Btw, I'm strongly in the 'eugh, kids.' camp.

Yeah its not about whether you like kids or not, well behaved kids - or anyone in fact, shouldn't bother anyone and should have the right to be there. FWIW, I have seen some pretty appalling behaviour in restaurants from adults too, probably the ones that go on to have poorly behaved kids.

 

[Seeds]

So you mean have a party?

And, make sure you're sitting down when I tell you this: DJ's are often hired for parties.

If I was a swinger than I wouldn't be ashamed about piping multiple pussies. Obviously jealous. Lack of avatar makes me think its been a while since you've got one away. No your not invited.

I mean 4 to 8 mates sitting on a couch and getting pissed. No dressing up, no invitations, no ****y Dj's and no calling it a party unless you want to get beaten up by said mates.

 

[Valentino Dmitri]

Physical abuse

My folks used to smack by brother and I when we were really little, as it was the done thing in the early 80's, but stopped before long as it made them feel like jerks.

As such it was always bizarre to me hearing horror stories of the kids at school copping the wooden spoon, or getting whipped with a belt. In fact I saw the belt first hand, when I slept over at a friend's house in about grade 4. He was showing off, and his mum was having none of that . she pulled the belt off her pants (which made for some pretty terrifying imagery and stated hoeing into him with it while he cried. She then left the room while he lay there sobbing and I sort of just sat there gobsmacked, and asked him if he was alright but he was crying too hard to talk. incredibly uncomfortable and confrontational stuff.

Using weapons to beat up kids seemed very strange, it's not like you'd need them surely? I'm no tough guy but I'd like to think I'd have a 6 year old covered if we ever came to blows. They were weirdly specific weapons too, with the aforementioned wooden spoon and belt, and also the JUG CORD. Never saw that one in action, but I guess it was used like a flail. It's like the arseh*le kid bashing parents got together and signed a Geneva convention document on what they were allowed to use. Maybe you'd have extra special badass parents using non sanctioned gear like sharpening steels and vacuum cleaner pipes and what have you.

 

[Valentino Dmitri]

Its not the kids that are the pain in the arse it is the parents.

Often go out with and without kids, both are good at different times, however, I do take issue with self centred parents breeding a generation of self-centred kids.

We have been out with other families with kids to venues that I would consider to be more adult than kid friendly eg: pub / cafe etc and have had to make my child sit down and behave because they are "out', while all the other kids are running wild while their parents sit back oblivious to the fact that their little darlings are annoying the crap out of other patrons.

Just plain laziness, kids are never too young to learn manners and etiquette but if they aren't taught what is to be expected.

ALso just recently went to a 21st where a two year old thought he was the star of the show all night.

Back in my day if my dear old Dad wanted to piss on at the pub, he'd drive my brother and I over, park outside the door, wind down the window, put on a Slim Dusty cassette and, every once in a while, bring us out a raspberry and a packet of samboys. Then drive us home some time afterwards.

Probably the other extreme, haha

EDIT: I hate it when comedians have children. The only funny jokes about kids is when they violently shit or vomit on an unsuspecting person.

Also there is nothing wrong with hanging out with different people while the kiddies of your old friends are growing up. It's hard enough watching football on TV with young families, let alone anything more intensive. Always trying to show you a teddy or an appalling Crayola drawing. Carrying on about nothing. They're probably more happy spending time with like minded people at any rate. they see their lifestyle as beautiful and fulfilling, as I've never experienced it I see it as having to spend 2 decades living with and being responsible for a ****ing idiot, who will probably grow up to not like you much anyway.

 

[04 Durif]

The main reason to have a kid would be an excuse to do all the real fun things like sword fights with sticks, throwing honky nuts at things, watching cartoons all day and eat ice cream when you want

It took having kids to have spinning around contests combined with running races. Though since then I tried it with some mates combined with a binge drink and that was pretty good to

 

[HBF]

Not sure how anyone couldn't want kids. Kids are the greatest.

Everyone's different.

 

[Northworth]

we have a one year old
definitely remember the attitude I used to have with friends' kids and clogging up FB, making catch ups hard

now I am in the same boat - everyone is different. I have no problem with people who don't want kids or anything to do with mine.

 

[Brad Goodman]

Dont get why you have to have an engagement party anyway, have a get together with your close mates with a few drinks to celebrate, make the family gathering a private affair and be done with it. The OP clearly has lots of money and time on his hands.

Engagement parties are a pretty stock-standard thing I would have thought. Every friend of mind who has ever gotten engaged has had a party.

 

[raff23]

Engagement parties are a pretty stock-standard thing I would have thought. Every friend of mind who has ever gotten engaged has had a party.

Don't really see the point tbh, and im not the only one.

 

[Catfish Alley]

Who doesn't like a party?? An engagement is a nice excuse for one.

 

[the_interloper]

Back in my day if my dear old Dad wanted to piss on at the pub, he'd drive my brother and I over, park outside the door, wind down the window, put on a Slim Dusty cassette and, every once in a while, bring us out a raspberry and a packet of samboys. Then drive us home some time afterwards.

Probably the other extreme, haha

EDIT: I hate it when comedians have children. The only funny jokes about kids is when they violently shit or vomit on an unsuspecting person.

Also there is nothing wrong with hanging out with different people while the kiddies of your old friends are growing up. It's hard enough watching football on TV with young families, let alone anything more intensive. Always trying to show you a teddy or an appalling Crayola drawing. Carrying on about nothing. They're probably more happy spending time with like minded people at any rate. they see their lifestyle as beautiful and fulfilling, as I've never experienced it I see it as having to spend 2 decades living with and being responsible for a ******* idiot, who will probably grow up to not like you much anyway.

Louis CK does a funny bit about a kid in one of his children's classes, he absolutely hated this other kid, pisser.

As for the OP, just make it clear there'll be MDMA caps in lolly jars and mirrors with lines racked up on it at the party, no one will bring the kids then.

 

[dbcrow]

I have two kids - 6 and 10.

I welcome things like weddings because I don't want my kids there. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids, but I like to have a social life without my children. My wife and I are so busy with everything, that we really enjoy the time away from them.

In fact, we've been to weddings where there were heaps of kids but not ours. We had a great time - the other parents were looking after their kids most of the time.

With the nice restaurant thing - I think it's OK if your kids are well behaved. Mine certainly are and I would be confident in taking them to a nice restaurant and know they'd behave. And if they didn't, we'd be out the door.

To the OP - if people are asking you if it's OK to bring their kids, I'd say to them what you're planning on getting up to (it's your party - you can do what you want), and if they're still comfortable bringing their kids into that sort of environment, then that's their call.

You might only get engaged a couple of times in your life - you should enjoy the party

 

[Miqar_Baqfhied]

I mean 4 to 8 mates sitting on a couch and getting pissed. No dressing up, no invitations, no ****y Dj's and no calling it a party unless you want to get beaten up by said mates.

Gee wow sounds like a blast

 

[Seeds]

Gee wow sounds like a blast

a real bloke would think thats much better than a party

 

[Miqar_Baqfhied]

a real bloke would think thats much better than a party

A great night with 100 of my best friends and family with free piss and great music - how stupid of me to not realise I would of had more fun with 4 mates on a couch....

Exactly what do you have in mind doing on this couch that would make it so fun cos it sounds a bit concerning to me