Resource Mental Health

[Wickzki]

Absolutely shattered and heartbroken for you and that beautiful little girl and her family (just read about the tragedy on news.com.au)

You are a beautiful and strong and caring human being Wicks, and I have no doubt you will be a strong and caring a father/parental figure to her brother and her family during this truly horrific time..

I just donated 50 dollars to help support her family (funeral expenses) on the gofundme link on the news.com.au article.

All my healing thoughts/prayers and kind thoughts to you and the family of the lost angel.

Take care mate.
We all love ya here on the Carlton board

Thank you so much for donating. It means a lot to "our" family.

You don't choose your "blood" relations in life but as I told the Mum's new partner things like this certainly prove that you can choose who your "real" family is.

She's the niece I'll never have and the Mum is ttuly like a sister.

The surviving son is doing well. He's not aware of what has happened (he's highly autistic too) but he and my boy who have only ever paralleled play (doing their own thing in a shared space) actually played together for the first time together yesterdwy evening. He couldn't stop laughing the entire time. It was the cutest thing ever. My partner recorded it and shared it with Mum and our group chat (Team Mum essentially).

It's a tragedy but we'll do what we can to pick up the pieces end help Mum and son get through this as best we can.

 

[Elmer_Hauser]

Thank you so much for donating. It means a lot to "our" family.

You don't choose your "blood" relations in life but as I told the Mum's new partner things like this certainly prove that you can choose who your "real" family is.

She's the niece I'll never have and the Mum is ttuly like a sister.

The surviving son is doing well. He's not aware of what has happened (he's highly autistic too) but he and my boy who have only ever paralleled play (doing their own thing in a shared space) actually played together for the first time together yesterdwy evening. He couldn't stop laughing the entire time. It was the cutest thing ever. My partner recorded it and shared it with Mum and our group chat (Team Mum essentially).

It's a tragedy but we'll do what we can to pick up the pieces end help Mum and son get through this as best we can.

You're one of the very best posters and people we have on this board Wicks and it was my honour to try help out in what way I could.

May the new year brings much happiness and light to yourself and your family and extended family and loved ones.

 

[Wickzki]

Thank you for all of your kind messages and words of support over the past two and a half weeks. Thanks again to those of you who supported the family with your generous donations.

We celebrated Mia's beautiful, precious and short life today. Her funeral was gorgeous and heartfelt. The overwhelming majority of us wore watermelon themed clothing - bright and colourful. The way she loved life and would want to be remembered.

We've already initiated plans to have a bbq in a few weeks with the Mum (my partner's best mate) and her closest friends in a few weeks to ensure that our group give her the type of love and ongoing support and mateship she's going to need.


You're all awesome. Thanks again.

 

[Prem17]

Cardio health?
The last few games this club have played are jeopardising my health!

 

[Wickzki]

How is everyone doing?

 

[Dramoth]

Went and saw my pshrink today. She asked if I would be interested in doing the MDMA PTSD trial here in WA. Don't know how it is going to go for me, but if it means I can start working properly again, then I am all for it.

While there are the naughty connotation about MDMA, it actually made me feel somewhat normal in the past when I took it while out clubbing. Mind you, so does most stimulants I've taken illicitly in the past. That I have a lot of symptoms associated with ADHD, this would make sense.

 

[Wickzki]

Went and saw my pshrink today. She asked if I would be interested in doing the MDMA PTSD trial here in WA. Don't know how it is going to go for me, but if it means I can start working properly again, then I am all for it.

While there are the naughty connotation about MDMA, it actually made me feel somewhat normal in the past when I took it while out clubbing. Mind you, so does most stimulants I've taken illicitly in the past. That I have a lot of symptoms associated with ADHD, this would make sense.

I think a lot of these stimulants when used in the right fashion can do a lot of good.

People will always look at the downside and the trouble they can cause but when used correctly will serve a positive purpose.

I've never really touched recreational drugs but living in the spinal unit for several months and making friends with the other patients (it was like a college dorm more than a standard hospital for those who weren't bed bound) I watched how good things like cannabis could help those who needed it.

You'd be in a controlled environment (right?) using it in a prescribed manner. Personally, I think you have much more to gain out of it than you do to lose.

 

[Coona Blues]

Went and saw my pshrink today. She asked if I would be interested in doing the MDMA PTSD trial here in WA. Don't know how it is going to go for me, but if it means I can start working properly again, then I am all for it.

While there are the naughty connotation about MDMA, it actually made me feel somewhat normal in the past when I took it while out clubbing. Mind you, so does most stimulants I've taken illicitly in the past. That I have a lot of symptoms associated with ADHD, this would make sense.

Sounds like a plan. At least worth the effort in a controlled environment.

I grew up a bit of a wowser. Frowned on drug use, even cannabis, as it was the evil of the day. Had trouble relating to the growing use of it by my peers. Now it is embraced as almost a cure all which has been denied the public with misinformation driven by “Big Pharma”. I haven’t tried yet, but I am sure it is coming at some stage (if affordable)

Have been on prescription pain killers for years. Went “cold turkey” off Tramadol 13 years ago due to adverse health effects, an eye opener indeed, didn’t sleep for a week. Medications have their proprietary names and we don’t often relate to the content. Recent consult was a bit of a revelation. “You realise you are taking 60-80mg of morphine daily” depending on which dose I choose at night. I have no addiction. Can forego day or night dose on a whim (if planning to have a drink, or social occasions that are not overly physically taxing) If I want to be active during the day, or take the edge off to sleep, it is essential.

If it is clinically recommended and monitored, surely is worth a try.

 

[Wickzki]

I'm taking a break from the footy part of the site.

Tonight was the straw that broke the camel's back for a while.

Champion Data supports everything I'm saying. Champion Data supports what others have been saying for two years about Collingwood.

I can't support that.

If you haven't already got me on socials and want to remain in contact, feel free to drop me a PM. I'll give you my deets.

I'm usually good this long after a game. Not tonight. Sorry.

Mods - feel free to read the first edit if you can. 100% fact and why I'm so upset

 

[james Dean]

RIP Cam McCarthy.

Through a few degrees of separation I knew him (met him once) and the guy had his demons.

It can affect anyone at anytime. I’ve lost a lot of friends to suicide.

Please be honest with yourselves and seek help if you need it.

 

[Stickitupthem]

Hi all Long time since I posted here but thought I’d share
Our family went thru the ringer with our youngest daughter for the last 4 yrs .
She has been getting better every day and has almost conquered her demons thru support from our strong family bond and friends she has been able to reconnect with again .
I did something stupid as fathers do yesterday and my wife and daughter couldn’t stop laughing they were hysterical at my expense last night
It was the first time in 4 yrs I have seen my daughter laughing uncontrollably
Keep in there it’s never too late

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Hi all Long time since I posted here but thought I’d share
Our family went thru the ringer with our youngest daughter for the last 4 yrs .
She has been getting better every day and has almost conquered her demons thru support from our strong family bond and friends she has been able to reconnect with again .
I did something stupid as fathers do yesterday and my wife and daughter couldn’t stop laughing they were hysterical at my expense last night
It was the first time in 4 yrs I have seen my daughter laughing uncontrollably
Keep in there it’s never too late

Long may the fatherly stupidity and hysterical laughter continue!

 

[DirtyLeeds]

Just want to publicly acknowledge the support sent out to me in spades from the good people here on this forum! You definitely know who you are, and I am so thankful of your intuition. My avatar represents a charity a couple of friends and myself started to honour our mate who completed in '15. We do lots of amazing things but yet, me, the President of the thing can feel suicidal too, the message is if you see it reach out, you may save a life....
I wasn't that bloke this week, but I was as close as I have been in years.
Thanks Baggers, love this site

 

[Coona Blues]

Just want to publicly acknowledge the support sent out to me in spades from the good people here on this forum! You definitely know who you are, and I am so thankful of your intuition. My avatar represents a charity a couple of friends and myself started to honour our mate who completed in '15. We do lots of amazing things but yet, me, the President of the thing can feel suicidal too, the message is if you see it reach out, you may save a life....
I wasn't that bloke this week, but I was as close as I have been in years.
Thanks Baggers, love this site

Charity begins at home, look after yourself Dirty. Cyber hugs from a bloke who spent the day in hospital, hopefully getting a life changing procedure.. (couple of days to assess the effect). Hopefully life gets better, if not I can be content the medicos (finally - 3 years late) made an attempt to fix the ****up of some of their peers.

 

[Dramoth]

So... ****ing chaos here ATM. The current owner of the house has sold the house and they close on the 18th. The new owners want to occupy the house and we need to be out by the 10th of Feb. My sister who lives around the corner is moving into a granny flat in the house my nephew has just moved into and we're going to be moving into the sisters old house.

But what's that got to do with your mental health Dram...

I was planning on getting some respite so I could do the move to the sister's current house while mum is in residential respite care. I've got a placement for her. She goes in next Tuesday.

So what does she do when I ask her if she wants to go to the respite place... "if I go in, I probably won't be coming out again". A ****ing guilt trip. Then she's like "I was planning on getting your sister to come and look after me so that you can go away for a few days".

WTAF?

So, I don't get any real respite. I don't get the chance to pack and organise the move around to my sisters place. I don't get the time to talk to centrelink about our rent assistance... and possibly putting in for NDIS... with my PTSD and a possible new diagnosis of ADHD on top of my PTSD.

The other week, I was looking at my pocket knife. So I picked up an icy pole stick and stabbing motions into my arm with it... about 8-10 times. I say that because I am looking at my pocket knife again. I'm also thinking of going up to the road house and getting some chocolate. I am broken... and none of my family really gives a ****ing shit about me except for my capacity to care for our mother.

 

[Wickzki]

I'm sorry that the family troubles keep manifesting for you Dramoth

I'm glad that y'all figured out your moving situation. Sounds like that's going to be a positive outcome at the very least. Once you told me about the place being put up for sale I was genuinely concerned for your future. It's bloody rough out there. I've seen low and middle income earners - families who are good people - struggle to find places to live in this damn rental crisis and who have been forced to bole up in my nearby main CVD hub (I now live in Somerset region in QLD, partner still works in Ipswich).

So to know that you've avoided a similar situation is welcome news.

You do need an opportunity to do what you need to do. What you've asked for is entirely reasonable. At the same time, however, I can understand your mother's concern. My mother refused respite when she was deteriorating for the same reason. She wanted to fade away slowly and on her terms and she'd earned the right to do so.

So you're left with a choice. Can you do what you need to do with her there if someone else is helping her out? If so then that seems to be the most suitable outcome for you. You're both in the same space but your responsibilities have changed for a small period of time. I've had support workers tell me of similar outcomes with their clients. Something to consider, perhaps.

 

[Coona Blues]

Good advice Wick. All the best Dram, while your situation is over ridden by emotion, the only way is to remove emotion and cover the logistics. Lowest common denominator has to prevail.

I am so very glad my wife and I have a situation with house ownership. We endured some very hard times, but were fortunate that a compensation package gave us a deposit. We only had a small mortgage to start with, but had to fight to get the loan, regardless because both basically lost our historic incomes in 2010. Our required repayments are low and we have paid double or more required amount for some years now. The house is in major need of cosmetic upgrade and a little non urgent structural attention, but we are secure.

If we had stayed in the rental market, we would likely be on the street given the current economic climate. There has been significant movement of kids in and out of our daughter’s school, with many rentals in the area doubling in price in the last 3-5 years. Supply and demand drives the prices, while Covid social adjustments have had an influx from down south, as well as many non residential owners resuming occupancy and moving out long term tenants. Almost weekly my wife comes home from work with stories of regular elderly customers having housing upheaval. Bundy has a significant retirement population and a significant “underclass” of historic welfare families, including plenty of “First Nations” people.

Our home will actually be mortgage free by mid 2025, so we are in an envious position. Our income is low due to my inability to work for a decade and a half and my wife forced by injury to swap her lucrative income from being a top line country jockey to a customer service role. We are frugal but secure. Sadly we see many people who are similarly frugal struggling to keep a roof over their families heads, simply because of a shift in the economy.

I despair at the media rhetoric and political posturing out there. So many Aussies are finding that their incomes no longer provide enough for the basics of life. So much of our employment these days are in non essential industries and are so very lacking in security if and when there are further correctional downturns in the employment market. At the same time the “academic revolution” has told our youth that they should focus on white collar opportunities. Blue collar trades have been stigmatised for a generation or more. We now lack qualified and willing tradespeople to carry out building and maintenance projects. The continuing market pressures for building materials, with availability at an all time low combines with employment shortages to dictate that any political announcements of building projects are just hot air.

Without staff and materials, our housing crisis has exactly zero chance of improving. There is also more money in industrial building than residential further skewing availability to renew or add to housing infrastructure. We are in a downward spiral and no government has the balls to make any difficult decisions to give us the remote hope of turning things around.

I am grateful for our situation and feel genuine heartache for the hundreds of thousands of Aussies living on a knife’s edge. I feel for your situation emotionally Dramoth, but please be buoyed by the fact you have housing to move in to. I am sure it will settle down soon. Try to take the emotive element out and reassure your family that it is all for the best.