I not sure if this belongs here or deserves its own thread.. in a bit of a predicament.
Long story short, seperated and divorced from my ex-wife and mother of my three kids. Things are ok most of the time but still can get testy at times. We both have new partners, she doesnt live with hers I live with mine. We share custody of the two youngest kids, \ my 17yo who didnt get along with my new partner so decided not to come to mine anymore, I still catch up with my eldest on a weekly basis for dinner/milk shake or just a drive.
all the above stuff is fine, the current issue is, my second born is doing their Deb in April (my eldest missed out due to Covid) and have just found out that I will only get one ticket to the Deb, my partner or any other member of my family will not get one, aparently there are limited tickets. My ex, however is able to get a ticket for our other two kids (no issue with that) but also her partner as well as her mother and aunt.
Obviously i was a little put out, I have been with my partner for 5 odd year and she has been a part of my kids lives to a degree for most of that time. I spoke to the ex about it in a calm manner she said that she has been is in contact with the venue/deb committe and apparenly only one person per family can organise tickets. She also said it was my second born whos is doing the deb's, decision who was invited, and for what its worth gets along well with my partner.
I also spoke to the second born and they round about way said that they were the names given to the ex. but I think there may have been a little cohersion. My ex can bebit maliputive and unstable when she doesnt get things her way. I also think they dont want the whole thing to turn into a fight so it trying to keep mum happy
I definaly want to go to the event, and i also want to take my partner, but if I push it and able to get her a ticket and we all sit together then there is going to be tension and mix that with alcohol could explode. I dont want to ruin my daughters night.
the tickets dont go on sale for another week or so, so I am going to try and contact the venue/organisers explain that we cant sit together and get a few tickets on a separate table, but my ex said there are not extra tables only one table each for the debutant couples to share. Im not 100% sure how it all work i didnt do my deb and only ever been to one (a long time ago)
if I cant get seperate tickets how should I play it.
Long story short, seperated and divorced from my ex-wife and mother of my three kids. Things are ok most of the time but still can get testy at times. We both have new partners, she doesnt live with hers I live with mine. We share custody of the two youngest kids, \ my 17yo who didnt get along with my new partner so decided not to come to mine anymore, I still catch up with my eldest on a weekly basis for dinner/milk shake or just a drive.
all the above stuff is fine, the current issue is, my second born is doing their Deb in April (my eldest missed out due to Covid) and have just found out that I will only get one ticket to the Deb, my partner or any other member of my family will not get one, aparently there are limited tickets. My ex, however is able to get a ticket for our other two kids (no issue with that) but also her partner as well as her mother and aunt.
Obviously i was a little put out, I have been with my partner for 5 odd year and she has been a part of my kids lives to a degree for most of that time. I spoke to the ex about it in a calm manner she said that she has been is in contact with the venue/deb committe and apparenly only one person per family can organise tickets. She also said it was my second born whos is doing the deb's, decision who was invited, and for what its worth gets along well with my partner.
I also spoke to the second born and they round about way said that they were the names given to the ex. but I think there may have been a little cohersion. My ex can bebit maliputive and unstable when she doesnt get things her way. I also think they dont want the whole thing to turn into a fight so it trying to keep mum happy
I definaly want to go to the event, and i also want to take my partner, but if I push it and able to get her a ticket and we all sit together then there is going to be tension and mix that with alcohol could explode. I dont want to ruin my daughters night.
the tickets dont go on sale for another week or so, so I am going to try and contact the venue/organisers explain that we cant sit together and get a few tickets on a separate table, but my ex said there are not extra tables only one table each for the debutant couples to share. Im not 100% sure how it all work i didnt do my deb and only ever been to one (a long time ago)
if I cant get seperate tickets how should I play it.
- go along by self, and upset my partner
- convince my second born to change her list
- get a ticket for partner and roll the dice it all turns to shit
- not go at all
- other ?