Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the woman of Your Desire (Part 7)

[iluvparis]

First date payment can be a bit of a signal

Generally if goes well - I pay 100%
if goes average - split bill

Would never make girl pay 100% no matter how atrocious date was.

 

[BotsMaster]

 

[craigos]

I think all you lads are over thinking it. You should buy the first drink and if once finished she doesn't offer just tap your glass on the table/bar and ask if she wants another. If she says yes tell her to go get it if she doesn't she's a campaigner and deserves a life of loneliness only half a dozen cats can ease.

 

[Silent Alarm]

Met up with a girl on Saturday night. I was with a mate at first and already had a beer, she lined up to grab one and I gave her $20 to grab me one as well. She got the next round (and even the following one). Also paid for my taxi to hers. Nothing felt awkward or forced at all, all pretty cool for a first hang.

Thing is, so long as you're not a weird unit, their natural inclinations will take over – sometimes they'll be stingey, sometimes they'll be normal, and sometimes they'll be good people and offer more than they need to. If you're stressing over shit like that, you're worse than Larry David and starting to cross over into Woody Allen territory.

 

[Howard Littlejohn]

Life is so much as easier as a mega-shy, awkward, fugly depressive, who has learned to never bother trying because it never goes anywhere. Not even as far as AFS.

And I'm actually serious. At least I know where things stand 100% of the time.

 

[Stratton_Gun]

Life is so much as easier as a mega-shy, awkward, fugly depressive, who has learned to never bother trying because it never goes anywhere. Not even as far as AFS.

And I'm actually serious. At least I know where things stand 100% of the time.

That's kinda sad srs
If you're young enough just hit on some random sloots and clubs and see where it gets ya.

 

[La Dispute]

Nothing wrong with taking a break from women though.

Dating isn't the be all and end all and if women aren't enhancing your life their are so many better things to be immersed in. You can definitely overcome the awkwardness though.

How old are you HL?

 

[PortRox]

**** paying for drinks. Just sneak in some of that Fruity Gordo shit and fill up 'er glass

 

[Howard Littlejohn]

That's kinda sad srs
If you're young enough just hit on some random sloots and clubs and see where it gets ya.

I forgot to memtion, also old and past it. Whatever "it" was. Which I'm sure was much better than your modern "it".

 

[Bomberboyokay]

Life is so much as easier as a mega-shy, awkward, fugly depressive, who has learned to never bother trying because it never goes anywhere. Not even as far as AFS.

And I'm actually serious. At least I know where things stand 100% of the time.

See a psychologist.

 

[BALKAN]

get some viagra and a prosty and STFU m8 #truuu #slaaarrrrtz

 

[Eagle Boy]

Ok this is a bit weird but hear me out and give us your thoughts. I met this girl online but things didn't work out between us. Was never anything major anyway, very short. Thing is I'm really keen on one of her friends. We've never met just going off her Facebook profile. Never been so attracted to someone like her. What do I do? Messaging her is probably what I should do but what do I say, don't want to sound like an online creep? (Probably sound so but not). We share a mutual friend, do I ask her about this girl? The first girl I met kind of complicates the whole thing. Someone has no doubt experienced this, like to know how things went. I doubt I'll have much luck, don't have much usually anyway and in this case I'm punching above my weight in a weird scenario.

 

[TheFreshBanana]

Find out where she works... stalk her... "accidentally bump into her"

Or get tinder, and try to find her lol

 

[raven echo]

God damn I hate falling into the friendzone lol

 

[JD11]

No worthwhile romantic relationship has ever come after being 'friends' with a girl for more than a couple of days, unless you're in High School. There's no 'friendzone' she just doesn't like you. Either keep the friendship, friends are a wonderful thing in this world and you should keep as many as you can. Or move on.

 

[Eagle Boy]

Find out where she works... stalk her... "accidentally bump into her"

Or get tinder, and try to find her lol

Googled her and all that stuff so know where she works. The other girl, her friend was on tinder. Actually got in contact with her to see if she wanted to catch up this weekend thinking it could lead to the girl I'm into. Mentioned she'd be at a bar this weekend. Anyone want to play wingman?

 

[checkraiseulite]

Met up with a girl on Saturday night. I was with a mate at first and already had a beer, she lined up to grab one and I gave her $20 to grab me one as well. She got the next round (and even the following one). Also paid for my taxi to hers. Nothing felt awkward or forced at all, all pretty cool for a first hang.

 

[BotsMaster]

Age is just an arbitrary number, it's really about whether you click. Obviously different age groups will have stereotypical characteristics but you shouldn't dismiss someone based on the arbitrary number/assumption of what theyre like without getting to know them.

Would you say it's superficial to judge someone on their age?

I'm 23, getting married to my amazing fiancée next week, she's just turned 36. Not one time during our four year relationship has age been a barrier. After the initial shock when we first met (I thought she was around 25 at the time, she thought I was mid twenties) we both clicked in a big way and moved in together one month into the relationship. We have rarely had a fight during our relationship and we're expecting our first child together in September.

For those concerned about an age gap, all I can say is love conquers all. When you meet the right one, you just don't care - you'll do anything to make the relationship work.

This post makes me think it is superficial.

 

[Ahern2Boof]

Went to a good friend of mine's tonight, ended up dyeing her hair and giving her neck massages.

 

[Cruyff14]

Did you forget your penis at home?

 

[checkraiseulite]

Did you forget your penis at home?

trans-tasman update?

 

[Cruyff14]

trans-tasman update?

lol, you're like the fifth person to ask.

Dead and buried. We're still friends. It was never going to work.

I have a girlfriend now, someone I used to work with. Except she's been in Europe since the 3rd. Back on Saturday though.

 

[Bunk Moreland]

Met up with a girl on Saturday night. I was with a mate at first and already had a beer, she lined up to grab one and I gave her $20 to grab me one as well. She got the next round (and even the following one). Also paid for my taxi to hers. Nothing felt awkward or forced at all, all pretty cool for a first hang.

Thing is, so long as you're not a weird unit, their natural inclinations will take over – sometimes they'll be stingey, sometimes they'll be normal, and sometimes they'll be good people and offer more than they need to. If you're stressing over shit like that, you're worse than Larry David and starting to cross over into Woody Allen territory.

So she bought you a couple of beers, paid for your taxi, and then played with your penis?

You've done well. You definitely owe her though - another night like that you'll get a freeloaders reputation

 

[checkraiseulite]

I think it's more a matter of whether the investment paid off once the taxi was paid for.

 

[Silent Alarm]

I think it's more a matter of whether the investment paid off once the taxi was paid for.

I lost my cap (98-99 1860 Munich, so good – I was angry) and text her the next day. Got blunt replies and figured that was that.

I quite clearly did not put in a $15.22 performance.

After a skinful I'd be happy to be in a $3.50 one.