That’s crazy.
I had a girl recently where we were texting and vibing really well. I said shall we get a drink. She said great except I probably won’t drink as I have a swim in preparing for. I said that’s fine, I haven’t been drinking either, should we get a water instead? She immediately flipped and was offended by it.
Happy to say I have not had to use Tinder for a long while and while the general advice is to meet up as soon as possible I decided to go against it and not meet someone until I had texted with them for over a week and there wasn't any arguments or unpleasant conversations.
First person I did this with, I'm still with them.