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MEB_ said:
Well I'm thinking you're probs not going to meet a long term prospect on Tinder, so if your definition of 'nice' is a hook up then by all means...
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Better than nothing I guess. Although Im trying to avoid random hook ups now. Im sick of them.

I think I'm going through a reverse mid life crisis. I've just hit 40 and after spending the past 20 years galavanting about the place, partying my ass off and shagging much younger women, I'm looking to settle down, be responsible, get a mortgage and get my shit together.

Isnt it normally the other way around? Guess I'm finally at the place where random hook ups are losing appeal.

Never thought I'd hear myself say that. Im pouring myself a glass of vino. The Perth heat today mustve gotten to me.
 
Malifice said:
Better than nothing I guess. Although Im trying to avoid random hook ups now. Im sick of them.

I think I'm going through a reverse mid life crisis. I've just hit 40 and after spending the past 20 years galavanting about the place, partying my ass off and shagging much younger women, I'm looking to settle down, be responsible, get a mortgage and get my shit together.

Isnt it normally the other way around? Guess I'm finally at the place where random hook ups are losing appeal.

Never thought I'd hear myself say that. Im pouring myself a glass of vino. The Perth heat today mustve gotten to me.
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Have you tried Plenty of Fish? That's another suggestion from my colleague
 
Malifice said:
Better than nothing I guess. Although Im trying to avoid random hook ups now. Im sick of them.

I think I'm going through a reverse mid life crisis. I've just hit 40 and after spending the past 20 years galavanting about the place, partying my ass off and shagging much younger women, I'm looking to settle down, be responsible, get a mortgage and get my shit together.

Isnt it normally the other way around? Guess I'm finally at the place where random hook ups are losing appeal.

Never thought I'd hear myself say that. Im pouring myself a glass of vino. The Perth heat today mustve gotten to me.
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See, I have a theory. To me, people are like taxis. When they're available to settle down, their 'light' goes on. If you meet someone fantastic but their light isn't on (i.e. they're not in a place where they're ready to settle down) then it's not going to work, regardless of anything else.
It's true for me personally and quite a few of my friends. If I hadn't had a couple of years to be single then I wouldn't have been ready for the serious relationship that I'm in now, I would have been quite happy to remain foot loose and fancy free.
 

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MEB_ said:
Bluebelle did ask me for my thoughts, which I offered....
as a woman using Tinder and receiving some of the opening lines that I did, I 100% fail to see how a relationship could start from it. If your experience is different that's fine, but it doesn't make my input 'rubbish'
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You made an assertion and offered your opinion. I didn't attack your opinion which you are entitled to.

However the assertion that Tinder is "pretty clearly only for sex" is completely wrong.

You may have had bad experiences with it but to go that far is taking it to an untrue extreme.
 
MEB_ said:
See, I have a theory. To me, people are like taxis. When they're available to settle down, their 'light' goes on. If you meet someone fantastic but their light isn't on (i.e. they're not in a place where they're ready to settle down) then it's not going to work, regardless of anything else.
It's true for me personally and quite a few of my friends. If I hadn't had a couple of years to be single then I wouldn't have been ready for the serious relationship that I'm in now, I would have been quite happy to remain foot loose and fancy free.
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I agree with that Mebby. Two relationships ago, I wasn't ready to settle down despite being very compatible with him. Had I been, I reckon I'd be married with kids now
 
HBF said:
You should check out Table for Six Mal & Bluebelle.
A buddy of mine put me on to it before I met Mebby.
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Is it a dating site?

Edit: I just googled it. I reckon I'd hate that!
 
Jeremias said:
You made an assertion and offered your opinion. I didn't attack your opinion which you are entitled to.

However the assertion that Tinder is "pretty clearly only for sex" is completely wrong.

You may have had bad experiences with it but to go that far is taking it to an untrue extreme.
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To be fair J, the people I know who have used Tinder (both male and female) have pretty much said the same thing that Mebby has said.
 
MEB_ said:
Kind of like a chilled out blind date with 3 men and 3 women to a table. Sounds pretty reasonable.
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If some of the other ppl were friends then yes but dinner with five strangers doesn't sound like my cup of tea unfortunately
 

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Malifice said:
Go on?
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You go out with 5 other people for dinner - 3 male and 3 female.
You pay for your own dinner and a day or so after the date, a representative gets in touch with you from Table for Six and asks if you have any interest in any of the ladies you had dinner with. If you do, they get in touch with the lady and see if there is any interest from them.
 
MEB_ said:
I haven't looked into it (for obvious reasons) but maybe you could take 2 girlfriends along...might make it easier.
I did speed dating many moons ago with a girlfriend and it was hilarious.
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It doesn't work that way.
Table for Six arrange all the singles that go along that night.
I'm sure they'd do it so you all have something in common.
 
MEB_ said:
I haven't looked into it (for obvious reasons) but maybe you could take 2 girlfriends along...might make it easier.
I did speed dating many moons ago with a girlfriend and it was hilarious.
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I'm honestly happy being single but will keep one eye on the game. I barely have time for myself let alone somebody else. I know I know, I should make time, blah blah. Hear it all the time but honestly,, I met a few guys towards the end of last year and I wasn't overly impressed. I seriously have no luck when it comes to men. When there have been possibilities, my light hasn't been on. It's just the way it is unfortunately
 
HBF said:
To be fair J, the people I know who have used Tinder (both male and female) have pretty much said the same thing that Mebby has said.
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No question that most people use it as a way to organize a quick hook-up. There are exceptions to that, though - I can think of a few off the top of my head & I'm sure there are many more.
 
Did Dinner for Six twenty years ago and it was great fun, have also done speed dating on numerous occasions and can't say I have been impressed with the men that have gone along, although I am probably in a different age bracket than you Bluebelle. The last time I did speed dating was about two years ago and the host kept everyone waiting whilst they were still trying to get some more males to come along, they even let them come along for free whilst the females had to pay full price. In Perth there are always more females than males. Even though I have a lot of friends I might try another group called Meet Up which is not technically a dating group but you never know.

I have been single for so long that I am kind of over it. Maybe it is Perth males who wants a woman who likes doing the normal couple things like going to normal movies etc etc. That is not me.
 
JamisonRun40 said:
Did Dinner for Six twenty years ago and it was great fun, have also done speed dating on numerous occasions and can't say I have been impressed with the men that have gone along, although I am probably in a different age bracket than you Bluebelle. The last time I did speed dating was about two years ago and the host kept everyone waiting whilst they were still trying to get some more males to come along, they even let them come along for free whilst the females had to pay full price. In Perth there are always more females than males. Even though I have a lot of friends I might try another group called Meet Up which is not technically a dating group but you never know.

I have been single for so long that I am kind of over it. Maybe it is Perth males who wants a woman who likes doing the normal couple things like going to normal movies etc etc. That is not me.
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What sort of things do you enjoy doing?

I must admit, when I was dating a few years ago a lot of men found it a turn-off that I enjoy sport so much. They were more than happy to go to the footy/rugby/cricket/tennis themselves, but didn't want me to have such a passion for it. Needless to say, those fellas didn't last very long.

I've got the right balance in my relationship now, because we can enjoy sport either together or separately and we'll be happy either way...and while I love musical theatre, the opera and ballet, he doesn't...so luckily I've got a girlfriend who is always willing to come along with me!
 

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