Do men's handshakes mean anything?

[GuruJane]

This week in the HUN Neil Mitchell made a passing comment about Paul Keating's handshake being like a fish.

Now having known the lad back when he was about 20 i am the last Keating fan ever, but have never picked him as a limp shaker.

So want to know ..do you guys in the 21 st century still judge other guys by their handshakes?

 

[Weaver]

Absolutely and I don't think it is just a guy thing. You need a good handshake from the Goldilocks school of etiquette, not too strong, but not too soft.

The right handshake says I am comfortable with you and see you as an equal.

 

[jim boy]

Originally posted by GuruJane
This week in the HUN Neil Mitchell made a passing comment about Paul Keating's handshake being like a fish.

Now having known the lad back when he was about 20 i am the last Keating fan ever, but have never picked him as a limp shaker.

So want to know ..do you guys in the 21 st century still judge other guys by their handshakes?

It's not that important, but the handshake is generally assessed when you first meet someone, so it goes into the make-up of the overall important first impression. I do know people who will grip the hand tightly and attempt to turn your hand downwards in an effort to exert initial psychological dominance. But I think that's a load of bollocks.

 

[ozzult]

Definitely.

A firm handshake is always a good sign. The worst situation is when you get one bloke trying to give a firm handshake, and the other guy who is as limp as a failed Viagra patient. It's like trying to have a chop on the flop.

 

[B2..]

No. Absolute rot. I've known men with strong personalities and convictions, honest men, who have had weak handshakes.

OTH, others who are the sort to look you in the eye whilst shaking your hand, stabbing you in the back with the other, if you get my drift.

I'm a poor judge of character first up. I'll let a man's actions determine what I finally think of him.

 

[Captain Sensible]

I guess it all depends on whether you are a freemason or not...


Actually I can remember being introduced to Keating in the late '80s and thinking what a soft handshake he had. It may well be the only thing I ever agree with Neil Mitchell on.

 

[llosis]

Absolutely. Firm handshake is a very positive thing. always shake firmly - something my Pop taught me when I was a little tacker.

 

[SonOfScray]

Yes, I think it does have an impact on your view of the other person. I have always been told 'Eye, Dry, Firm' and make and effort to make sure that a handshake is always a good one.

Anyone that goes overboard and tries to dominate the handshake is percieved as a ****er. Too soft and they are weak or terribly uncoordinated, or both.

I dislike poor handshakers

 

[lenny&carl]

I will always try and mirror a person's handshake exactly, when it comes to grip, pressure etc, because i assume we're dead equal. Unless they are total squibs, in which case my handshake will inevitably be a little more butch, or unless they are the type of tool that tries on the palm-down "power-shake". Once went to happily shake with a guy, noticed he was doing this, so I pulled my hand away and waved g'day instead.

I do do the stonecutters' handshake ocassionally, when I think they're a likely candidate, but haven't had any funny nods or winks so far. Shshhhh, it's a secret!

 

[El Scorcho]

Shhhhhut up!

 

[TheWackedYak]

Definitely...no one likes the wet fish.

The basketball post-game homie handshake is one of the most god-awful hanshakes to confront. Do it right boys, we're not the 51st state yet...

But, if not necessary, heed the words of Greg Graffin...

"Fend for yourself
Fend for yourself
Fend for yourself
And shun the handshake"

 

[Wicked Lester]

Defintely - the limp handshake is always remembered and often commented on.

 

[Asgardian]

Originally posted by lenny&carl
I do do the stonecutters' handshake ocassionally, when I think they're a likely candidate, but haven't had any funny nods or winks so far. Shshhhh, it's a secret!

Which particular Masonic handshake do you utilise?

Is there more than one?..

Remember, it's not a secret organisation, it's an organisation with some secrets. One that has done billions of $'s worth of good throughout the world. Its members were even persecuted by Hitler

 

[Captain Sensible]

Originally posted by Asgardian
Which particular Masonic handshake do you utilise?

Is there more than one?..

Depends who is asking...





...Happy to meet.

 

[Frodo]

It certainly is a psychological tool and part of first contact deduction.

For this reason it is wise to alter your handshake to fit the way you want to be perceived. Your dress should compliment your handshake. For the fewe who wera ties, the colour is significant. Disciplinary meetings always are better if you wear dark blue. Subtle Red when you want to show warmth. And the green pen (including ink) is one of the most underused tools around.

The thing is with the handshake to be in control, the other person will generally get a perception from it and you can prove that perception wrong whilst beforehand gaining a lot of insight.

Women tend to use other methods.

 

[Jars458]

I find it very annoying when people do not shake hands after a sprting contest win lose or draw.

Limp handshakes are ordinary but I can't really say it has changed or formed my view on a person. Would be a very superficial way a judging a person and as if we don't have enough of those.

 

[Docker_Brat]

I feel like wiping my hand after copping a limp handshake. Always a good firm handshake with both hands in a vertical position.

There is also the other extreme when some men go for the crushing handshake or have their palm facing down in some kind of dominance game.

 

[Docker_Brat]

Originally posted by Jars458
I find it very annoying when people do not shake hands after a sprting contest win lose or draw.

Or just as bad when it is a half hearted shake. Pointless.

 

[SonOfScray]

After a match of local footy (which we usually lose) I always shake hands with the opposition. If they give a half hearted, limp shake I make a point of crushing their hand and making them wince. Half hearted shakes are the worst, shows a complete lack of respect to the individual.

 

[Frodo]

Originally posted by Jars458
I find it very annoying when people do not shake hands after a sprting contest win lose or draw.

At the risk of 'racist' taunts I will voice my disgust at the frequent response of certain eastern European nationalities who after a soccer game are offered a hand and reply with a spit. And that goes all the way down to ten year olds.

 

[Mooster7]

IMO Shaking hands is one of the most important things you can do in life. Just as is saying, "Hey, how are you doing?"

You have to be able to do both of those with just the right amount of honesty and genuine conviction, or else you better off not even trying.

The truth is, you can't do any of this all the time with any sincerity. The good news is, sincerity is done best when it is well faked.

How to Consistently Fake the Perfect Sincere Handshake:

Easy really. You don't want the limp fish. You don't want the Hulk crushing diamonds. It has to be very firm, but not squeezy. Here's what you do - Make like you are going to shake hands, but squeeze your own four fingers together tightly. It should be as if your index (pointer) finger and your 4th (pinky) finger are trying to get to one another. Do it hard.

This has the effect of firming and hardening your entire hand. When someone else takes it, there is a lot of power there, but no squeeze. Impressive. Powerful, yet well-controlled. That's the impression you'll leave, and you'll do it the same way every time. Be sure to look the other person in the eye whether you are smiling or not.

Tip 2: Be sure to always wipe lubricating jellies off your palm before shaking hands.

Tip 3: Having a joy buzzer will only impress clowns - but those guys are always expecting it. Yup, hard to joy buzz a clown....



Peace,

 

[Asgardian]

Originally posted by localyokel
Depends who is asking...





...Happy to meet.

Likewise

we both have been taught to be cautious

 

[Groove]

I dont trust a man with a limp bad handshake...it aint cool. its like they dont care enough about you to put any effort into shaking your hand.

i play local footy and always make an effort to shake peoples hand... yet i saw someone once go to shake with his left hand and with his right punched the guy in the face.....i couldnt believe it..... so watch out for those left hand shakes fellas.

 

[Former]

Originally posted by Asgardian
Which particular Masonic handshake do you utilise?

Is there more than one?..

Remember, it's not a secret organisation, it's an organisation with some secrets. One that has done billions of $'s worth of good throughout the world. Its members were even persecuted by Hitler

God damned goat ****ers...

 

[Former]

But seriously folks...

Who cares? You do a mis-grab and you get the tips of their fingers, or they are thinking about something else when they meet you and you get a weak shake, or that is just the way they shake hands.

I don't usually judge the person on their hand shake unless they go for the power-grab in which case I just relax and squeeze again just as they let go.

The other good come-back if they do the horizontal dominance thing is to grab their hand with your palm face down on the back of their hand. Good for laughs.