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- #51
She isn't attracted to you anymore. DTB.
Seriously though, I had the opposite problem with my last missus, she was tall and weighed like 40kg. Sometimes dipping into the 30's. Had big boobs too so you can imagine how skinny her arms and legs are. She had that kind of build though (tall skinny) and I'm a small guy myself so we looked alright together.
But damn, she used to eat like once a day, smoked ciggies a lot etc. Once her boobs and butt started getting smaller I got a bit worried an started taking more of an interest in getting her to eat, taking her out to dinners more and stuff, but she'd mostly just eat a few mouthfuls (didn't have an eating disorder or anything, like she wouldn't be throwing it up later or anything) then say she was full. She loved sweets though, chocolate, lollies etc. were the norm for her. It was really weird, like her genetics were just that way for being skinny, but it got to the point where I was really worried. When we met she would have been closer to 45kg, had a killer body (that model look) but slowly she just started getting more lazy, skinnier etc.
Its not like I'm some adonis anyway, I've got a small beer gut, I'm short, not overly muscular. Don't work out or keep fit anywhere near as much as I should, smoke and drink heavily. I guess you've got to keep in mind, when you're trying to change someone, that you can't be expecting them to be perfect either. Think about why you're asking: Are you concerned for your relationship? Your Partner? Or just placing unfair expectations on them to mask the fact you're not in love with them anymore?
In my case I realised it was simply that the relationship wasn't working out, and that I was using her appearance as a way of having an 'out' rather than being honest and evaluating the plethora of other issues we had.
To the OP, you sound like a good guy, and that you're just genuinely concerned for your partner (and that you knwo that once you lose sexual attraction to her its going to be hard for the relationship to continue). All the best with it, but don't beat yourself up over it either. You're coming from a place of love and concern, and just make that clear to her the whole time. The fact you're thinking about her future and her not wanting to miss out on stuff like her Mum did, shows how serious you are about her and how much you are wanting this change for her, not just for yourself.
Seriously though, I had the opposite problem with my last missus, she was tall and weighed like 40kg. Sometimes dipping into the 30's. Had big boobs too so you can imagine how skinny her arms and legs are. She had that kind of build though (tall skinny) and I'm a small guy myself so we looked alright together.
But damn, she used to eat like once a day, smoked ciggies a lot etc. Once her boobs and butt started getting smaller I got a bit worried an started taking more of an interest in getting her to eat, taking her out to dinners more and stuff, but she'd mostly just eat a few mouthfuls (didn't have an eating disorder or anything, like she wouldn't be throwing it up later or anything) then say she was full. She loved sweets though, chocolate, lollies etc. were the norm for her. It was really weird, like her genetics were just that way for being skinny, but it got to the point where I was really worried. When we met she would have been closer to 45kg, had a killer body (that model look) but slowly she just started getting more lazy, skinnier etc.
Its not like I'm some adonis anyway, I've got a small beer gut, I'm short, not overly muscular. Don't work out or keep fit anywhere near as much as I should, smoke and drink heavily. I guess you've got to keep in mind, when you're trying to change someone, that you can't be expecting them to be perfect either. Think about why you're asking: Are you concerned for your relationship? Your Partner? Or just placing unfair expectations on them to mask the fact you're not in love with them anymore?
In my case I realised it was simply that the relationship wasn't working out, and that I was using her appearance as a way of having an 'out' rather than being honest and evaluating the plethora of other issues we had.
To the OP, you sound like a good guy, and that you're just genuinely concerned for your partner (and that you knwo that once you lose sexual attraction to her its going to be hard for the relationship to continue). All the best with it, but don't beat yourself up over it either. You're coming from a place of love and concern, and just make that clear to her the whole time. The fact you're thinking about her future and her not wanting to miss out on stuff like her Mum did, shows how serious you are about her and how much you are wanting this change for her, not just for yourself.
