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Lol was so going to say this. Spot on.
Society & Culture The BigFooty Guide to getting the non-gender specific person of Your Desire (Part 8)
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Lol was so going to say this. Spot on.
Shell
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Wait- where did that post go- someone describing his work hook ups??? It gone.
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Yeah, but I'm surprised you think 2 people working on opposite sides of the country would even warrant a conundrum.
sometimes ppl be catchin feelinz
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I know from personal experience that every time I have had sex with a woman, she has never been the same again afterwards. I'd often get messages following intense sessions from them saying that I have ruined their life, obviously because they knew they'd never be satisfied like that again.
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I often wonder when the taboo of sex eventually ceases to exist whether everyone will be a lot happier. I also think that religion has a lot to answer for, monogamy would be responsible for the vast majority of relationship breakdowns I would assume. We should be able to seperate our bodies from our minds in this day and age. Lots of people would be horrified to find out their partner kissed someone else when out drunk one night but probably forgive their partner flirting etc over txt.
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Some would say that emotionally cheating is worse than physically cheating.
I was unconsciously emotionally cheating. I was with my ex for 18 months (broke up December 2015) in 2011 I backpacked around Europe and hooked up with a Norwegian girl, we kept in regular contact since. I told my ex about her how I chat to this Norwegian girl regularly that I slept with once.
The relationship with me put alot of strain on the Norwegian's relationship and they broke up start of this year.
Long story short, in August this year I flew over to Norway.
Wasn't awkward at all considering we only met each other crossing paths in a hostel for 2 days in 2011.
Sex was amazing, my life seems easy with her in it, same goals for the future.
She is getting a visa and coming here early next year and I'm confident it'll go well then we look at defacto visa...
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The relationship with me put alot of strain on the Norwegian's relationship and they broke up start of this year.
Long story short, in August this year I flew over to Norway.
Wasn't awkward at all considering we only met each other crossing paths in a hostel for 2 days in 2011.
Sex was amazing, my life seems easy with her in it, same goals for the future.
She is getting a visa and coming here early next year and I'm confident it'll go well then we look at defacto visa...
Happy story
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I've never really been the jealous type and often wonder why women (some women- most women?) are strictly into monogamous relationships and do not/will not even consider the idea of either a more open relationship or threesomes. Dont they get bored just as much as men??? I've always thought I'd be sorta open to the idea of an open arrangement (perhaps not when the SO just goes off does their own thing- but together) but my only seriously LTR was definitely not into that so we never did.
Lol- one time a couple was going out within our (Geelong) BF friendship group and one (the girl) kissed another guy. My god it was like the scandal of the century. While I did feel for my friend (the guy) i definitely had to keep my real opinions to myself- ie "What's the big ****en deal", was only a kiss AFAIK. I know it's the lying and deception more of the actual act but still...
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It isn't. It's the pantomime and rigmarole you have to go through to get there that is.
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I was unconsciously emotionally cheating. I was with my ex for 18 months
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Means what exactly? Unless it is physical cheating can you actually cheat. Are there restrictions who you can actually talk to? Jeebus
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Not really. People are too uptight
There is more to a relationship than just physical contact. I have a very direct personality and talk about everything and anything. With my parents and brother and our partners we would talk about sex/ share stories at the dinner table, nothing was off limits and we just laugh about it. Its nice being comfortable to talk about anything without fear.
The ex kept telling me off that I can't say this or that and in the end I would go to her family dinners, sit down and be mute. I never said anything personal or attack anyone, one example was her step father offered me a Corona I said without thinking anything of it and in a light hearted manner "no thanks Damo, I rather drink my own piss than drink a corona" the ex was shocked and thought that was insulting. I would have no issues to talk like that around my parents.
Anyway I became so afraid to say anything due to being paranoid that i might offend her or family and I was unhappy at the end of the relationship due to me not being my confident self.
I started to lean on Norway with any personal issues I had or if I was unhappy/upset with anything I felt more comfortable discussing issues with her via texts than with the girlfriend that I was sharing a bed with.
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A kiss on the scale of cheating is nothing
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A married woman from my local cafe hit on me last week. Yes or no?
Normally I would say no.......sort out your issues, work on marriage etc.
But I will be unemployed circa mid next month and have no chance there after, in fact will potentially will never work again and then be condemned to singledom so to speak. So why the hell shouldn't I have a crack? Not like I approached her, I don't know the ins and outs of her relationship and the bro code is frankly a load of bullshit.
Normally I would say no.......sort out your issues, work on marriage etc.
But I will be unemployed circa mid next month and have no chance there after, in fact will potentially will never work again and then be condemned to singledom so to speak. So why the hell shouldn't I have a crack? Not like I approached her, I don't know the ins and outs of her relationship and the bro code is frankly a load of bullshit.
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Always go the smash.
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My ex was unemployed for about a year when we went out.
I know I won't convince you otherwise RnS, but not all women give a shit about money and "status" ffs.
I know I won't convince you otherwise RnS, but not all women give a shit about money and "status" ffs.
Shell
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And no, you are not the one cheating, she is, go for it I say.
Just do it at your place, not hers- dont want a husband coming home in the middle of..
Just do it at your place, not hers- dont want a husband coming home in the middle of..
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Shell
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Yeah I cannot relate to that not one bit- I come from a family where topics at the dinner table would be such things as: cars (my dad,brothers,etc were crazy about cars), general current affairs and just boring day to day topics. Imho sex and sex stories is 100% off limits at the dinner table my god. I wouldnt even talk about this stuff with my mum 1:1 let alone the dinner table lol.
Nor my friends either for that matter. Much more comfortable talking about sex stuff with guys (either SOs or a couple of close male friends) but for some reason never been comfortable talking to my female mates about it.
Yeah I'm on your ex's side on this one
(except the story about the Corona)
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OK. Apart from the married woman who I will go for and maybe post deeets on here
What happens if I'm chronically shy...........she is chronically shy????????
How do I make the first move without coming off as a stalker? As in known her for a while but never interacted much. She is a lot better looking than me. If I was to try it could seriously come off as weird. (In which case I would post in the AFS thread). But I simply am incapable of approaching women. I have lost my mojo Austin Power's style. Tips to get it back.
What happens if I'm chronically shy...........she is chronically shy????????
How do I make the first move without coming off as a stalker? As in known her for a while but never interacted much. She is a lot better looking than me. If I was to try it could seriously come off as weird. (In which case I would post in the AFS thread). But I simply am incapable of approaching women. I have lost my mojo Austin Power's style. Tips to get it back.
Shell
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Both being shy is incredibly difficult imo. Went out on a date with a very shy guy, I'm shy, everyone shy... date was awks af, never again.
Just ask her out for a coffee/drinks what is the worst that can happen.
Just ask her out for a coffee/drinks what is the worst that can happen.
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Worse that can happen is..............
We date, have an awkward convo, have an awkward dinner, awkward conversation about who's place
End up just having a fu** anyway (which in hindsight is what we were both there for) and end up both disappointed.
Never again.
Or as in most cases, just have an awkward date and be working up an excuse to run 30 seconds in.
Or.........another story,
But you're right. Dating sucks. I simply can't be bothered anymore.
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This is good, ya.I was unconsciously emotionally cheating. I was with my ex for 18 months (broke up December 2015) in 2011 I backpacked around Europe and hooked up with a Norwegian girl, we kept in regular contact since. I told my ex about her how I chat to this Norwegian girl regularly that I slept with once.
The relationship with me put alot of strain on the Norwegian's relationship and they broke up start of this year.
Long story short, in August this year I flew over to Norway.
Wasn't awkward at all considering we only met each other crossing paths in a hostel for 2 days in 2011.
Sex was amazing, my life seems easy with her in it, same goals for the future.
She is getting a visa and coming here early next year and I'm confident it'll go well then we look at defacto visa...
Happy story
I think a lot would have to do with being tarnished a "****". Which is another thing that I'm still surprised modern society hasn't caught up with. Everyone likes sex, some more than others. As long as people are being responsible does it really matter how many partners they've had? I'm not talking about going through a full division 4 reserves team but merely hooking up with people on a regular basis. For guys, sex is usually used as a topic to have a laugh about with mates and to take the piss. For some women they still feel apprehensive about discussing it with a group of friends. On open relationships, it'd be hard to say how you'd react until you tried it, which if you're in a long term relationship would cause a lot of people to side with the cautious approach. But you're right, we spend our younger years sleeping with numerous people but then expect to spend 60+ years with the same person and wonder why people cheat.
You're overthinking it man, approach girl, say hello, engage in conversation. Next day, so the same, next day ask her if she'd like to grab a coffee on the weekend.
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