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Society & Culture The Bigfooty Guide to Getting the Woman of Your Desire (Part 5)
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Go for it. If it doens't work out, move onto the next one..
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Younger or older sis?
Go for it. If it doens't work out, move onto the next one..
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Younger or older sis?
2 years younger
BACCS, it didn't work out with that chick?
if keen on someone in particular, is it a good thing to mention this to one of her close friends who you trust? ie: to get the inside mail, to know when the time to have a dash, and know the landscape, etc?
It can be. I think it's more important to make sure the girl knows/has a fair idea first, because if the first she finds out about it is from her friend she probably won't be attracted to your shyness/lack of confidence. But if her friend just confirms her suspicions, it could have a positive effect on her plus if her friend likes you she might put in a positive word (that helped me a lot with my current gf).
Really depends on the situation, but yes it can be helpful.
I know someone posted a little bit before about talking on facebook. I am an advacate of it, hooked up with a girl (girl two from a few pages ago), talked on facebook a fair bit before we went out, and it did not detract from conversation at all. Conversely, it gave us more to talk about, and there were no awkward stages at all. I know, different situations could give different results, but in my experience talking on facebook has helped, and it never got down to the stage where it ran us dry of conversation for "real life" meetings.
interesting & yeah agree, but i don't think she knows i could be wrong...but i feel like i' ve got to find out when the time to roll the dice is.
Yeah, well for me I didn't tell any of her friends, but when she first told them of her/my interest one in particular was very encouraging and helped a lot. But I made sure I told the girl before speaking to her friends about it, just seems the right way to go.
I feel that telling a friend first gives the friend more power over the situation than you have, as in her position as messenger she can manipulate/misconstrue messages if she is for/against the relationship happening, and her word will be taken. Much better to be direct IMO. But it does depend on the situation and how well you know/trust the friend.
one more question - what is the consensus for groups of friends and hooking up with more than one person from the group..does hooking up with one rule the rest out..or mean nothing at all [this is for future reference hahaha]?
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Curious to know this myself actually (just for future reference too). Does having hooked up with one mean that they "have their label on you" or "have first dibs", putting you off-limits to the rest, even if you're not in a relationship? And along with that, should you feel guilty/will you look bad for trying to pursue something (even just hooking up) with another member of the group?
In terms of the confiding in a friend, if your unsure how it will turn out, try a different approach.
Say to said friend: "Hey whats up with [girl x]?"
Friend: "Why, what do you mean?"
You: "She has been acting a little weird towards me lately, not sure what the deal is."
Woman being nosey by nature will mean she will poke, prod and interrogate until she knows whether girl x has feelings for you
Say to said friend: "Hey whats up with [girl x]?"
Friend: "Why, what do you mean?"
You: "She has been acting a little weird towards me lately, not sure what the deal is."
Woman being nosey by nature will mean she will poke, prod and interrogate until she knows whether girl x has feelings for you
The time is now! Why wait?
I know very few girls who will entertain the idea of going out with the ex of one of their close friends.
It happens, i've (somehow) managed to hook up multiple times with each of three best friends within a few months, only one of them being ****tly... Was kind of expecting it to be awkward, but for some reason, wasn't? 
All good 
Had a thing with one of them for about a month, then got the friend zone, then alternated between the other two for a bit a few months later...Kinda weird, but hey! I'm not complaining!
Bit of a rarity though...
All good Had a thing with one of them for about a month, then got the friend zone, then alternated between the other two for a bit a few months later...Kinda weird, but hey! I'm not complaining!Bit of a rarity though...
It's a bit different at high school where everybody knows everybody else.
so you've fallen for a girl, good for you, she's all you can think about and all you wanna do is be around her. that's cool, love is a beautiful thing...but it can also be a cold, barbed, twisted catheter rammed up the urethra that is your heart and draining away your happiness, self-esteem and dignity as you writhe on your bedroom floor, naked, wailing her name to the window in agony.
women are fickle creatures, as well as atrocious drivers, so would you hand the keys to your aston martin over to one you just met and say, "here, you drive"?
and so it is with the game of cat and mouse that is getting the woman of your desire. the player who appears to be the least interested from the outset is the cat and controls the tempo of the game. so pretty much, be an aloof, disinterested arseh*le around her whilst still showing enough glimpses of charm to keep her from running away back to her mousehole. she will try to appear disinterested too, but rest-assured, you intrigue her. it's crucial that you don't lay all your cards on the table yet; don't lavish her with attention but don't completely stonewall her either, just titillate her. be interesting, have something that sets you apart from the other guys.
now, at some point, she will probably try to friend-zone you. you are a mystery to her, dangerous and enigmatic, and by friend-zoning you she is attempting to rectify this and make you safe. Do not let this happen. Once you are put in the friend-zone, you never get out. I once had a girl say to me, "we're friends, right?"
i replied, "besides my mates' partners, i don't really do the whole female friends thing; i refuse to be friend-zoned" and then walked-off. it had it's desired effect.
i refuse to be friend-zoned, unless i'm the one doing the friend-zoning. now, before you start jumping up and down accusing me of being a hypocrite, settle-down and read this: the female friends i have who may have had slight crushes on me in the past, i treat with dignity and respect, i don't ****-tease them and certainly don't use them as an emotional crutch when i'm feeling down, lay my dainty head on their shoulder, kiss them on the cheek, tell them to never change and then run off and start slamming their best friend. they know exactly where i stand.
the whole refusing to be friend-zoned thing; it can be a tough call to make because you'd do anything just to be around her but it comes down to your sense of self-worth and self-respect; do you really want to put yourself through the torture of being that guy that pines after this girl whilst she's out rolling in the hay with every other guy on campus? heck, she may even spread some sugar your way from time-to-time but you're still always gonna be that safe guy, trapped in the friend-zone. you may be clinging to the sad, misguided hope that one day she will come to her senses and see that you're the good guy that she's always wanted; but i can guaranty you that it's never going to happen.
anyway, back to the whole cat and mouse game; no matter what, always make it seem like you're less interested in her than she is in you. the amount of interest you show in her is relative to the amount of interest she shows in you, so if she starts showing more, you show more, but always make sure it's less than her's whilst remaining cool and charming.
eventually she's going to reach her breaking point, it may be after a week, it may be after a couple of months; who knows? it depends on the girl and it depends on you. she'll be so into you she can barely contain herself; you'll know, and that's when you make your move.
women are fickle creatures, as well as atrocious drivers, so would you hand the keys to your aston martin over to one you just met and say, "here, you drive"?
and so it is with the game of cat and mouse that is getting the woman of your desire. the player who appears to be the least interested from the outset is the cat and controls the tempo of the game. so pretty much, be an aloof, disinterested arseh*le around her whilst still showing enough glimpses of charm to keep her from running away back to her mousehole. she will try to appear disinterested too, but rest-assured, you intrigue her. it's crucial that you don't lay all your cards on the table yet; don't lavish her with attention but don't completely stonewall her either, just titillate her. be interesting, have something that sets you apart from the other guys.
now, at some point, she will probably try to friend-zone you. you are a mystery to her, dangerous and enigmatic, and by friend-zoning you she is attempting to rectify this and make you safe. Do not let this happen. Once you are put in the friend-zone, you never get out. I once had a girl say to me, "we're friends, right?"
i replied, "besides my mates' partners, i don't really do the whole female friends thing; i refuse to be friend-zoned" and then walked-off. it had it's desired effect.
i refuse to be friend-zoned, unless i'm the one doing the friend-zoning. now, before you start jumping up and down accusing me of being a hypocrite, settle-down and read this: the female friends i have who may have had slight crushes on me in the past, i treat with dignity and respect, i don't ****-tease them and certainly don't use them as an emotional crutch when i'm feeling down, lay my dainty head on their shoulder, kiss them on the cheek, tell them to never change and then run off and start slamming their best friend. they know exactly where i stand.
the whole refusing to be friend-zoned thing; it can be a tough call to make because you'd do anything just to be around her but it comes down to your sense of self-worth and self-respect; do you really want to put yourself through the torture of being that guy that pines after this girl whilst she's out rolling in the hay with every other guy on campus? heck, she may even spread some sugar your way from time-to-time but you're still always gonna be that safe guy, trapped in the friend-zone. you may be clinging to the sad, misguided hope that one day she will come to her senses and see that you're the good guy that she's always wanted; but i can guaranty you that it's never going to happen.
anyway, back to the whole cat and mouse game; no matter what, always make it seem like you're less interested in her than she is in you. the amount of interest you show in her is relative to the amount of interest she shows in you, so if she starts showing more, you show more, but always make sure it's less than her's whilst remaining cool and charming.
eventually she's going to reach her breaking point, it may be after a week, it may be after a couple of months; who knows? it depends on the girl and it depends on you. she'll be so into you she can barely contain herself; you'll know, and that's when you make your move.
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Is it just me or does every ****ing girl have a boyfriend?
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Yepp!
5 girls this semester who are nice, attractive, flirty, etc. Every one of them has a boyfriend.
Sucks being a business student in that regard, across my four units this semester, there are probably three chicks that even register on my radar. None higher than a 7/10 looks wise, and none that I would go gangbusters for.
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