That's what I am really worried about. It's been a year now and I'm worried it going to take years to unravel the 8 yrs of abuse, and how it's already impacted other relationships.A mate of mine was in an abusive relationship for years but from the outside none of us knew how bad it was until he was able to finally get out. He has been shot of her for a good 5+ years now and is still going to therapy for issues stemming from that time.