You have to question what these people are following the AFL for? Surely the VFL is more suitable for their needs?
If people are annoyed at there being so many Victorian clubs, why follow AFL ? Surely the WAFL or SAFL would tick all your criteria ?
The AFL is Victorian dominated because that is where the code's heartland, pride and passion resides, that and the fact that you can't base a code like the AFL in backwater towns.