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[Hojuman]

I dunno to be honest. Ask me in a couple of days.

It was pretty ****ed.

I'm normally asleep by now but I don't think i can go to bed yet. But we've got good support, numbers I can call if i need them and someone will definitely call me in the next few days from critical incident stress management team.

My brother just sent me a message so i'll call him now. Cheers.

SES stuff Ferb's ?

 

[Ligma]

I hope you are okay ferball

I have been exposed to graphic stuff too, unknowingly looking at a coronial brief, flipping through pages and then BAM an A4 sized picture of the deceased. It’s pretty rough, the shock you feel makes you queasy and uneasy like you are going insane. I felt way better when I told someone I had seen it and they didn’t shrug it off even though they have seen them plenty of times.

 

[ferball]

SES stuff Ferb's ?

Fire brigade. Of course I joined when I came down here. SES were there. It was a shocking accident. She was driving like a psycho and it was raining. She lost control, hit a tree and ripped her car in two. I've never seen a car that ****ed up. From one angle it looked like two cars pointing in different directions at 90 degrees. On the callout it said two cars were involved but I think they just saw the one from that angle.

It could have been so much worse. A pedestrian was hurt but it was minor. They will probably be home by now.

 

[ferball]

I hope you are okay ferball

I have been exposed to graphic stuff too, unknowingly looking at a coronial brief, flipping through pages and then BAM an A4 sized picture of the deceased. It’s pretty rough, the shock you feel makes you queasy and uneasy like you are going insane. I felt way better when I told someone I had seen it and they didn’t shrug it off even though they have seen them plenty of times.

Thanks mate.

Its pretty confronting stuff. I rang my mum last night and had a long chat to her, then my brother. Can't really talk here cos I don't want the kids to know just yet. Everyone who was there is checking in on each other and there is good support. I've been contacted by the critical incident stress management team - CISMT. Woke up saw my phone and thought I'd been called by TISM. Cool ... nah just the shrinks...

Its important to talk about this stuff. Not lock it up and withdraw.

 

[Kanga Glory]

Thanks mate.

Its pretty confronting stuff. I rang my mum last night and had a long chat to her, then my brother. Can't really talk here cos I don't want the kids to know just yet. Everyone who was there is checking in on each other and there is good support. I've been contacted by the critical incident stress management team - CISMT. Woke up saw my phone and thought I'd been called by TISM. Cool ... nah just the shrinks...

Its important to talk about this stuff. Not lock it up and withdraw.

Hope your ok, definitely talk to professionals if you neeed too, don't bottle it up mate.
Try and keep busy so you don't ponder

 

[Themanbun]

Been a rough, rough week. Hang tight everyone.

 

[ferball]

Hope your ok, definitely talk to professionals if you neeed too, don't bottle it up mate.
Try and keep busy so you don't ponder

Cheers mate.

 

[Lomas]

Thanks mate.

Its pretty confronting stuff. I rang my mum last night and had a long chat to her, then my brother. Can't really talk here cos I don't want the kids to know just yet. Everyone who was there is checking in on each other and there is good support. I've been contacted by the critical incident stress management team - CISMT. Woke up saw my phone and thought I'd been called by TISM. Cool ... nah just the shrinks...

Its important to talk about this stuff. Not lock it up and withdraw.

There is some really good information out there now about critical incident debriefing, and how it helps all involved.
Feel free to reach out if you want some links.

 

[rickety]

There's a poem I like called Evidently Chickentown, penned by John Cooper Clarke. I discovered it in some movie, kinda struck a chord, and a little more emotive than any JCC version I've heard.

 

[ferball]

There is some really good information out there now about critical incident debriefing, and how it helps all involved.
Feel free to reach out if you want some links.

Had one one Sunday. It was good, and the CISM team had someone ring me today.

I'm doing okay at this point tho. Lots of support from that lot and family. I'll PM you about those links tho.

I've been getting PTSD support for about 15 years (on and off) for different incidents and was reasonably okay with that sort of self care to begin with. Its an easy thing for it to get on top of you tho, and stuff does add up. But perspective and a good support base helps.

 

[Themanbun]

Speaking of PTSD I'm trying something they call EDMR therapy this week.

 

[Devington]

Speaking of PTSD I'm trying something they call EDMR therapy this week.

Do you mean EMDR? I've heard good things about it even if the process itself sounds like gobbledegook to me. That's next on my list to try, if IRT (Imagery Rehearsal Therapy) doesn't help to treat my nightmare disorder.

 

[Themanbun]

Do you mean EMDR? I've heard good things about it even if the process itself sounds like gobbledegook to me. That's next on my list to try, if IRT (Imagery Rehearsal Therapy) doesn't help to treat my nightmare disorder.

That's probably it!

Sorry to hear about the nightmares. I suffered from severe night terrors through most of my 20s. It was so exhausting.

 

[ferball]

Speaking of PTSD I'm trying something they call EDMR therapy this week.

How's it going?

I dunno much about it but the few things I do know about eye movement and memory kind of fit with it.

 

[ferball]

Do you mean EMDR? I've heard good things about it even if the process itself sounds like gobbledegook to me. That's next on my list to try, if IRT (Imagery Rehearsal Therapy) doesn't help to treat my nightmare disorder.

I used to have serious nightmares.

Dunno if I want to talk publicly about how I dealt with them. Pm me if you want a chat.

 

[Ligma]

Sorry guys I really need to rant

I just came back from my first overseas trip with my partner and to say it was overwhelming is an understatement. I forgot to grab 2 things on her list which I had genuinely apologised for BUT her behaviour is really disappointing.

And it’s not like I didn’t buy her anything in the first place, I got her a snacks, teas, a bento box and skincare which she argued that “she doesn’t use it” such as a personalised lip balm

We went out to dinner and she wouldn’t even talk to me or look at me without pulling a dirty look. She made snide comments when my partner spoke about what he brought for his coworkers being like “that’s so thoughtful of you” and “it was a cheap holiday” when talking about prices. Dad asked me if I had change left over and when I said I did she scoffed and gave me the dirtiest look.

I am like genuinely sorry for forgetting those 2 items but I also think it’s worse that you are holding a grudge against your child.

She made it all about her and it’s really mentally ruined me. She’s extremely embarrassed of me to the point where she won’t go to my cousins house with me to drop off gifts I got them. She won’t drop it either and apparently doesn’t care about the gifts but the ‘thought’ behind them. She’s also jealous about the stuff I got my dad and brother.

 

[Themanbun]

Relationships are hard work Liggers, esp.long term ones.
Saying that, when you are " young " you have alot of short relationships which you think may last forever.
You'll know when you're in sync with the right person and when you've found the right one.

My 2 cents.

I think she's talking about her Mum, Hoj!

 

[Hojuman]

I think she's talking about her Mum, Hoj!

You can divorce your parents l believe

 

[Themanbun]

How's it going?

I dunno much about it but the few things I do know about eye movement and memory kind of fit with it.

The treatment got delayed but I did it this week. Honestly worked very very well for a particular traumatic incident, to the point where I have pretty much no distress at all now thinking about it. In the following days however I had a bunch of childhood memories I didn't know existed come flooding back, so we'll probably need to do some more memory mapping I think.

 

[Shinboner1]

Feels a bit lonely these days.

 

[ferball]

The treatment got delayed but I did it this week. Honestly worked very very well for a particular traumatic incident, to the point where I have pretty much no distress at all now thinking about it. In the following days however I had a bunch of childhood memories I didn't know existed come flooding back, so we'll probably need to do some more memory mapping I think.

Is that like a cognitive map of some sort?

 

[Themanbun]

Is that like a cognitive map of some sort?

I'm not sure. They basically go through your history and try to pinpoint specific memories and points in time where trauma has been caused, so you can then work on trying to 'file' those correctly through the treatment.

 

[HELLSBELLS]

Hi all

Hope everyone is doing as well as can be !

If anyone battling can incorporate a bit of exercise and discipline into their lives it may help. Everyone is different but one morning last year I got up and just started.

Has been ups and downs and everything in between but it has been more than worth it.

April last year to today below

Don’t stop moving forward.

 

[Jonnoo]

That’s great work HB

 

[Makeshift Park]

Hi all

Hope everyone is doing as well as can be !

If anyone battling can incorporate a bit of exercise and discipline into their lives it may help. Everyone is different but one morning last year I got up and just started.

Has been ups and downs and everything in between but it has been more than worth it.

April last year to today below

Don’t stop moving forward.View attachment 2179261

Hell yeah mate.