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School nurses can be a bit quick on draw in my experience. I would treat it as just one piece of information (which it sounds like you are) and not act on anything unless you share the concerns. My oldest was recommended for everything under the sun by the health nurse in kindy, we didn't pursue any of it. He is in Year 4 now and is more than fine. My wife is a primary school teacher so she had a pretty good handle on the issues which made it easier on me.

He did turn out to be a Cats supporter though so I'm not really in a position to be offering parenting advice.

You've raised a monster.
 
School nurses can be a bit quick on draw in my experience. I would treat it as just one piece of information (which it sounds like you are) and not act on anything unless you share the concerns. My oldest was recommended for everything under the sun by the health nurse in kindy, we didn't pursue any of it. He is in Year 4 now and is more than fine. My wife is a primary school teacher so she had a pretty good handle on the issues which made it easier on me.

He did turn out to be a Cats supporter though so I'm not really in a position to be offering parenting advice.

I do feel a bit that way. Take a 4 year old to a new room, meet a new person, new things to look at, who knows what time of day, if he had eaten, was irritable etc, conduct a hearing test, not be able to complete an eye test because he won't sit still - whole thing probably 5-10 minutes then call parent and say he might have ADD..
 

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It is my greatest shame. The notion that a parents love is unconditional is ******* bullshit as well.

Just keep replaying the 1992 and 1994 grand finals for him
 
Well we haven't made it through term 1 of kindy yet and the school nurse has called to insinuate our almost 4 year old might have ADD.

I've wondered it from time to time myself but how do you know when you have no reference point? He's our first child and the first born in our immediate families. Makes it very difficult to do any "comparisons".

We figured he would fall into line a bit at kindy with the authority of a teacher but perhaps he's treating it more like the free range daycare of grab your mates and do whatever you want.

I've got a lot more understanding of all this to process, given the nurse dropped it on my wife who then complained about that whilst simultaneously dropping it on me. Anyone had experience with this before?

Ask for a referral to the public OT. Take him in and you'll likely find that he is fine. There is no harm in going, it's not like they tattoo your family or anything.

We went through it with one of our sons - bottom ager, not good at reading a room (probably still struggles with that), fine motor not the best and prone to get lost in his own world.

Developmentally the OT was perfectly happy with where he was at. There seems to be a pretty good disconnect between what the teachers want/expect so they can teach the way they want and what kids are actually capable of doing while still being right where they should be developmentally.

A few years on and he's top of the class in math, reads at a high level, plays footy/sports and is all round fine - for a little douchebag!

Sometimes I think the teacher or school nurse flags it so no-one can say they were asleep at the wheel. As long as your kid isn't violent or throwing aggressive tantrums and follows instruction if they are being disruptive I wouldn't sweat it too much. I think they grow out of a lot of stuff in time.
 
Ask for a referral to the public OT. Take him in and you'll likely find that he is fine. There is no harm in going, it's not like they tattoo your family or anything.

We went through it with one of our sons - bottom ager, not good at reading a room (probably still struggles with that), fine motor not the best and prone to get lost in his own world.

Developmentally the OT was perfectly happy with where he was at. There seems to be a pretty good disconnect between what the teachers want/expect so they can teach the way they want and what kids are actually capable of doing while still being right where they should be developmentally.

A few years on and he's top of the class in math, reads at a high level, plays footy/sports and is all round fine - for a little douchebag!

Sometimes I think the teacher or school nurse flags it so no-one can say they were asleep at the wheel. As long as your kid isn't violent or throwing aggressive tantrums and follows instruction if they are being disruptive I wouldn't sweat it too much. I think they grow out of a lot of stuff in time.

Thanks dude. Definitely not violent. Very empathetic, caring little guy 🥰 Operates at a million miles an hour though, which all those around us have just been assuring us is completely normal for toddler aged boys and young boys in general.
 
I wouldn't be listening to a Nurse/teacher for that sort of assessment. Its very easily misdiagnosed and better off going to a proper professional whos job is to assess that.

My 4 year old is a turbo most of the time and at times it does make you wonder if he has ADHD but i think he just a hyperactive kid and has been fine when at daycare for his 3 days a week and seems to be following instructions when asked and gets along with all the other kids just fine.

Kids at this age have a lot of energy to burn and i dunno id rather my kid be all energetic and running around then sitting in the corner like a zombie lol
 
I wouldn't be listening to a Nurse/teacher for that sort of assessment. Its very easily misdiagnosed and better off going to a proper professional whos job is to assess that.

My 4 year old is a turbo most of the time and at times it does make you wonder if he has ADHD but i think he just a hyperactive kid and has been fine when at daycare for his 3 days a week and seems to be following instructions when asked and gets along with all the other kids just fine.

Kids at this age have a lot of energy to burn and i dunno id rather my kid be all energetic and running around then sitting in the corner like a zombie lol
Yep he will have many years of that once he gets to adulthood
 
I wouldn't be listening to a Nurse/teacher for that sort of assessment. Its very easily misdiagnosed and better off going to a proper professional whos job is to assess that.

My 4 year old is a turbo most of the time and at times it does make you wonder if he has ADHD but i think he just a hyperactive kid and has been fine when at daycare for his 3 days a week and seems to be following instructions when asked and gets along with all the other kids just fine.

Kids at this age have a lot of energy to burn and i dunno id rather my kid be all energetic and running around then sitting in the corner like a zombie lol

I'm going to email the teacher today to get an understanding of the extent of her concerns, the frequency with which he becomes distracted etc. Am very aware of plenty of children being incorrectly diagnosed with ADHD and chucked straight on meds they don't need.

We'll go and get an opinion from an OT as well because if there is something to be concerned about we'd rather know now to put things in place to assist him.

It's been one thing after another this year for us, the news pretty much broke my wife last night. Good luck telling a Mum her son isn't perfect ☺️
 

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Just get the script for the pills and sell them. Kid is almost 4, bout time he starts pulling his weight with the household bills.
Is it bad that I had similar thoughts? (I didn't verbalise them at least Edit: tehcnically, neither did you. You comitted them to writing. In electronic form).
 
Is it bad that I had similar thoughts? (I didn't verbalise them at least Edit: tehcnically, neither did you. You comitted them to writing. In electronic form).

My initial thought was going to suggest taking the pills himself, decided to go with selling instead.
 
Ive heard the younger ones at footy training say they pay upwards of $10... haha

Geez Auskick sounds like it's becoming serious business.
 
8:40pm and finally off work after starting at 6am. Granted there was a four hour break in there while I saw The Batman but still a damn long day. And a damn long movie.
 
8:40pm and finally off work after starting at 6am. Granted there was a four hour break in there while I saw The Batman but still a damn long day. And a damn long movie.

They had to make the movie that long to fit in all the cameos from all the previous Batman actors as “alternate universe” Batmen, right?
 
And how was it?

Too long, which made the fact that the actual climax was less interesting that the anti-climax much more noticeable.

Well acted. They got Catwoman down cold.

Practical stunts and special effects always gets a tick from me.

If you only know Batman from movies, it's pretty original. If you know Batman more, it's a "spot where they stole that idea from" film, and so a little tiring after 3 hours. Not as good as The Dark Knight.

Tone-wise it's middle ground between Burton's gothic weird and Nolan's ultra modern realism.
 
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