Social Science Unpopular Opinions you have (non-football) Part II

[MrsEddieBetts]

I have a friend who never brings anything even though the rest of us will bring a bottle of wine etc, dessert. He'll help himself to what we've brought. No one has ever mentioned it to him because we are a pack of pussies.

 

[La Dispute]

This seems a little OTT “re evaluate your friendships groups because you and your like minded friends have an unspoken agreement that it’s not a requirement to bring a plate or drinks when you go to a mates house”.

My close mates and I don’t keep track of rounds or who shouts dinner or who brings beers because we all take care of it equally. Perhaps I’m down or up in those stakes month to month but in reality we don’t care because it all evens out.

I wouldn't be mates with someone with this mentality.

It's not about keeping tabs on someone, it's about common decency and not taking advantage of a situation because you can. I also find those that'll neglect to provide something will be the first the ask you for money for groceries when they are cooking a meal, or something equally as petty.

You can't just flick the switch when it comes to being stingy - some people are just naturally inclined towards taking care of themselves.

 

[edgie]

I can be picky... Well not really, but just in case I'll always bring a 6pk of my liking to share and snacks.

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[La Dispute]

I have a friend who never brings anything even though the rest of us will bring a bottle of wine etc, dessert. He'll help himself to what we've brought. No one has ever mentioned it to him because we are a pack of pussies.

This is equally part of it too. No one wants to make the situation uncomfortable, so nothing gets said, and then said dodgy friend does it continually.

The worst are freeloaders who bring a six-pack of draught to a party and then will help themselves to (your) premium beer through the night.

campaigners.

 

[peternorth]

I have a friend who never brings anything even though the rest of us will bring a bottle of wine etc, dessert. He'll help himself to what we've brought. No one has ever mentioned it to him because we are a pack of pussies.

If he builds up a collection for take away that's when you draw the line.

have known of people who.....at an outdoor gathering ie at restaurant, bill arrives and is either split or u pay for what you consumed/ordered. this person kept going to the toilet at bill time, or if stayed said he forgot his wallet. one time he disappeared. we called him and he answererd, said hes on the way home cause hes not feeling well. now he's not invited.

 

[rocker_oz33]

The old forgotton my wallet thick.
Cheap campaigner's.

 

[Cuzz09]

We normally bring wine or beer to a feiends.

If we dont finish it they insist on taking it with us because they wont drink it.

Aso normally bring a couple of bags of Doritos coz everyone loves them and they're an anytime nibble

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[Cuzz09]

Unpopular Opinion.

Trumps doing alright

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[Gralin]

Unpopular Opinion.

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how?

 

[phantom13]

I wouldn't be mates with someone with this mentality.

It's not about keeping tabs on someone, it's about common decency and not taking advantage of a situation because you can. I also find those that'll neglect to provide something will be the first the ask you for money for groceries when they are cooking a meal, or something equally as petty.

You can't just flick the switch when it comes to being stingy - some people are just naturally inclined towards taking care of themselves.

With what mentality? That we all share and split equally?

 

[Deliverance]

how?

In appealing to his voter base maybe.

 

[La Dispute]

With what mentality? That we all share and split equally?

You've indicated you don't know when it's equal or not and that is part of the problem. It's always the non-contributors who have the attitude that their beer once in a while makes up for multiple dinners, mates shouting slabs etc.

I have had mates like this in the past with the exact same attitude, and that is why some immediate reciprocity is needed when you're invited for dinner to at least account for their time and money spent on you.

 

[craigos]

A riot actually looks like a hell of a good time.

 

[rocker_oz33]

A riot actually looks like a hell of a good time.

Yep , it's a riot.

 

[Richard Cranium]

I also find those that'll neglect to provide something will be the first the ask you for money for groceries when they are cooking a meal, or something equally as petty.

It's always the non-contributors who have the attitude that their beer once in a while makes up for multiple dinners, mates shouting slabs etc.

I have had mates like this in the past with the exact same attitude

I think the issue here is less about any sort of 'social etiquette' and more that you have just had some shit friends.

 

[craigos]

Yep , it's a riot.

Daaaaaaaaaad

 

[phantom13]

You've indicated you don't know when it's equal or not and that is part of the problem. It's always the non-contributors who have the attitude that their beer once in a while makes up for multiple dinners, mates shouting slabs etc.

I have had mates like this in the past with the exact same attitude, and that is why some immediate reciprocity is needed when you're invited for dinner to at least account for their time and money spent on you.

I think the issue here is less about any sort of 'social etiquette' and more that you have just had some shit friends.

This... my mates and I are pretty comfortable that in the long run it will equal out. One of my mates lost his job due to covid, we caught up the other week and covered his share for dinner. I didn’t note it down and will probably forget about it in a few weeks cause we just do that for one another.

I think the suggestion that you should turf your mates if they don’t bring stuff is pretty extreme but to each their own.

 

[rocker_oz33]

Daaaaaaaaaad

Just get in early on 25 looters in one place.

 

[La Dispute]

This... my mates and I are pretty comfortable that in the long run it will equal out. One of my mates lost his job due to covid, we caught up the other week and covered his share for dinner. I didn’t note it down and will probably forget about it in a few weeks cause we just do that for one another.

I think the suggestion that you should turf your mates if they don’t bring stuff is pretty extreme but to each their own.

What's extreme is your read of the situation. Who's losing mates over not bringing over some snacks and beers? FMD.

 

[phantom13]

What's extreme is your read of the situation. Who's losing mates over not bringing over some snacks and beers? FMD.

Well according to you... you would.

 

[Richard Cranium]

What's extreme is your read of the situation. Who's losing mates over not bringing over some snacks and beers? FMD.

Ummm...

I wouldn't be mates with someone with this mentality.

 

[La Dispute]

Well according to you... you would.

Not having mates who don't contribute vs no longer having mates who leach isn't mutually exclusive.

I would say though that if mates are happy to leach off you they are likely to have other character flaws, so it would be best to slowly phase them out.

 

[Billy ray]

watermelons are a terrible fruit

 

[La Dispute]

Ummm...

Already clarified - I have had leech mates in the past, who I no longer see but for reasons unrelated to their non-contribution.

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

 

[peternorth]

What is needed is a spreadsheet documenting on each occasion how much is spent by each person/family. Whats owned and whats owed are documented