Farewell from me

[King Huskii]

I enjoy bigfooty as it's hard to talk to my dog about AFL and my mates are busy working and parenting just like myself.

Raz I get it. I need my friends in my life as i need connection to feel good. I'd feel exactly the same way as you if i didn't. You seem like a good person from a posting perspective. I don't know what the solution is but you shouldn't walk away from our board. We can get around you and chat over this in good company talking all things Freo.

I hope you stick around on here and post come finals because we can all celebrate a fun and successful season with many more looking forward.

Take care of yourself mate and keep in touch with us.

King Huskii

 

[King Huskii]

There's a common type that's really brave hiding behind a computer screen and an alias. But if you crossed them in real life they wouldn't say squat and are likely in the light of the day just losers.

This is a good point. I don't have FB anymore as i found it time consuming and many many people getting nasty etc

I can remember all these Eagles supporters cheering Gaff on. The same people who I know not as mates but the Web of friendships who you can link on FB and know full well that if I approached them about their nasty comments in person they would quiver.

 

[Raz]

There's a common type that's really brave hiding behind a computer screen and an alias. But if you crossed them in real life they wouldn't say squat and are likely in the light of the day just losers.

Very true

Sadly one of the people is a Mod so unlikely to ever change

 

[greatgatsby]

I'm an old bloke. That probably helps me not to take social media too seriously. The OP has received some good support and advice in this thread. My suggestion to him is to take that advice onboard and run with it.
For what it's worth (you'll see that I spelled it out to differentiate it from social media), I also think the OP should always keep in mind that although social media can offer people plenty (positive and negative), it is NOT real life and if anyone is struggling with the challenges of real life, the solutions are to be found in real life.

Finally, partly because my daughter is a clinical psychologist, I would be remiss if I didn't quietly recommend professional guidance and help.

 

[freo1997]

Hope you're ok mate. Always call lifeline and the good thing is you're recognising what's bringing down. If bigfooty gets you down, avoid it. Enjoy the rest of the footy season..not often we play in September.

 

[Raz]

I'm an old bloke. That probably helps me not to take social media too seriously. The OP has received some good support and advice in this thread. My suggestion to him is to take that advice onboard and run with it.
For what it's worth (you'll see that I spelled it out to differentiate it from social media), I also think the OP should always keep in mind that although social media can offer people plenty (positive and negative), it is NOT real life and if anyone is struggling with the challenges of real life, the solutions are to be found in real life.

Finally, partly because my daughter is a clinical psychologist, I would be remiss if I didn't quietly recommend professional guidance and help.

Sadly i don't have a real-life. No activity to keep me occupied.

Posting online or playing online games is my only escape from Work and living in a country that is not HOME

 

[BlueE]

I think part of the 'culture' of those types of groups is to mock each other, but sometimes that's not remotely fun if you are on the receiving end. Stay with us for the rollercoaster ride towards finals.

It's far worse than that on some threads and forums on here and those with power think it's hilarious and enable the behaviour.

For example repeated personal abuse and slurs, "a liar', "utter coward", "****ing coward", "weak and cowardly", "cowardice in the extreme" because they were put on ignore for being abusive.

It got worse and I won't be surprised if someone will seriously come to harm because BF is a haven for toxic trolls who do what they want.

 

[freo1997]

Just one other thing and possibly bad advice?. If you're looking to get a social fix join a park run there's a bunch of them. It's free and you can even jog/walk if you want. Good chats along the way if you're not going flat out I bet.

If you are a night person. Go Universal Bar or Mustang on a friday/sat night. Go in much later when everyone is a few drinks deep. Just listen to the band, have a glass of red and you'll find those two places in particular most people just chat to each other especially late.

 

[BlueE]

Just one other thing and possibly bad advice?. If you're looking to get a social fix join a park run there's a bunch of them. It's free and you can even jog/walk if you want. Good chats along the way if you're not going flat out I bet.

If you are a night person. Go Universal Bar or Mustang on a friday/sat night. Go in much later when everyone is a few drinks deep. Just listen to the band, have a glass of red and you'll find those two places in particular most people just chat to each other especially late.

May not be too many of those runs or bars in Dubai, especially in 46 degree summers??

have to agree with the runs normally and especially rescuing a dog as a companion. However, I think options might be limited.

 

[greatgatsby]

It's far worse than that on some threads and forums on here and those with power think it's hilarious and enable the behaviour.

For example repeated personal abuse and slurs, "a liar', "utter coward", "****ing coward", "weak and cowardly", "cowardice in the extreme" because they were put on ignore for being abusive.

It got worse and I won't be surprised if someone will seriously come to harm because BF is a haven for toxic trolls who do what they want.

I must say that has not been my experience on the Freo board, but I tend not to wander much beyond this board. I do take the cynical view though that much of social media is a cesspit

I commented above about a specific situation. But I think it's important for any young person to manage themselves online and, as with everything in life, not be too reliant on the restraint of others nor consistently effective regulation.

 

[bellie4pm]

Sorry to post this but i need to take a time out from BIGFOOTY as it is causing me more grief than pleasure recently

Nodoby in particulars fault. except mine

I am not a strong person. I face darkness every day.

So enjoy your time FreoFans. Hope we get to see that SHIP Sail in one day.

But until i can get myself sorted in my own head .

I wont be here .

Bless you all.

Raz you write yourself into peoples lives. So many real life groups would love your presence, help and perspectives on things. Ever thought about volunteering - just to give u a break from work and online world?

 

[Onslow88]

Don't know you on here as I don't post. Just lurk for the last decade. Sad to see anyone struggling. Online forums is full of people made of butter who don't share opinions in real life so they make up for it online. Anyways all the best Raz.

 

[Tony_Clifton]

Hey Raz, where in the world are you?

 

[Raz]

Just one other thing and possibly bad advice?. If you're looking to get a social fix join a park run there's a bunch of them. It's free and you can even jog/walk if you want. Good chats along the way if you're not going flat out I bet.

If you are a night person. Go Universal Bar or Mustang on a friday/sat night. Go in much later when everyone is a few drinks deep. Just listen to the band, have a glass of red and you'll find those two places in particular most people just chat to each other especially late.

not in australia , so sadly none of that accessible for me.

But thansk for suggestions

 

[Raz]

Hey Raz, where in the world are you?

Middle east.

 

[Raz]

Raz you write yourself into peoples lives. So many real life groups would love your presence, help and perspectives on things. Ever thought about volunteering - just to give u a break from work and online world?

most likely once i back in autralia will do something

I was a volunteer grief counsellor for 3 years after my son died of SIDS

 

[Tony_Clifton]

Middle east.

Any plans to come back to Australia? I hear Melbournes nice towards the latter end of September

 

[Ghost Pig]

Raz, my fiancé is on the spectrum, she's brilliant (without realising it) and the best thing that has ever happened to me in a thus far wonderful life.

We both have very, very dark chapters in our past we never thought we'd emerge from, and with the things I know, by just existing, she makes me immensely proud of her.

You may not be able to feel it now, to be fair you may never feel it, but stick around long enough and even the most beaten, hopeless, jaded and pessimistic of us can end up looking back and barely recognizing our younger selves, I certainly don't.

I believe you've got it in you, you seem to be being painfully honest with yourself and others and, from experience, that's a very good place to heal and grow from.

 

[Randomizor]

Sorry to hear that - I hope you are back to celebrate one day soon.

Your bio says you are overseas - something that helped my brother overseas was finding somewhere to volunteer, so he was around people and expected etc. Otherwise as others have mentioned please take a read of that thread.

Hope to see you back one day, if it is the right thing for you.

Piggybacking on this but joining a sports club is also an excellent way to meet new people. I lived in NY at some point in my life and knew absolutely nobody there, but I ended up joining a footy club of all things and suddenly had about 40 new people I could talk to that shared a common interest!

 

[mightymouse75]

Join a gym. Get those endorphins firing.

(From an old campaigner that went nowhere near 1 until I became an old campaigner)

 

[Lach72]

Join a gym. Get those endorphins firing.

(From an old campaigner that went nowhere near 1 until I became an old campaigner)

Can attest to this…

Don’t talk with anyone when I’m there but there’s a certain contentment seeing the same faces each time I go…from young kids who’d be 17/18 maybe to some people in their 70’s or even 80’s…I feel great when I’m there, stick the head phones on and listen to music or a poddy and away you go.

Mental health has improved from this, lots of walking, better sleep, good food and no booze…

 

[DocT]

Hey Raz,
It's barely 24hrs ago that you started this thread. I had no idea BF could be like this. Thank you so much for bringing us together. Who would have thought?

 

[Raz]

Any plans to come back to Australia? I hear Melbournes nice towards the latter end of September

Yes Home in 2026 when I retire

Definitely not going to Melbourne I don’t like big cities

 

[Clemen]

Raz,

I just lost my wife, unexpectedly. My teenagers just lost a mum. I’m only getting back to some form of normality now (well not really). What the hell was normal anyway?

It’s good to talk about hardships, and all credit to you that you have done that here, it takes some Josh Treacy sized balls to open up like you have.

Don’t give up my friend. In our loss, there has been an overwhelming level of support that is testament to the human spirit to be there and protect each other, and I have no doubt that this thread that you have been so brave to put out there will show you this, and more.

Sending you a big bloke hug from the other side of the world, you have a friend right here ️

I am so sorry for your loss.


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[FreoRicci]

Yes Home in 2026 when I retire

Definitely not going to Melbourne I don’t like big cities

Try Canberra.. it is cold, but a beautiful small quiet city close to Melbourne, Sydney, Brisbane for an away Fremantle trip.