Farewell from me

[Cayman Docker]

Raz,

I just lost my wife, unexpectedly. My teenagers just lost a mum. I’m only getting back to some form of normality now (well not really). What the hell was normal anyway?

It’s good to talk about hardships, and all credit to you that you have done that here, it takes some Josh Treacy sized balls to open up like you have.

Don’t give up my friend. In our loss, there has been an overwhelming level of support that is testament to the human spirit to be there and protect each other, and I have no doubt that this thread that you have been so brave to put out there will show you this, and more.

Sending you a big bloke hug from the other side of the world, you have a friend right here

 

[SiempreFreo]

Raz,

I just lost my wife, unexpectedly. My teenagers just lost a mum. I’m only getting back to some form of normality now (well not really). What the hell was normal anyway?

It’s good to talk about hardships, and all credit to you that you have done that here, it takes some Josh Treacy sized balls to open up like you have.

Don’t give up my friend. In our loss, there has been an overwhelming level of support that is testament to the human spirit to be there and protect each other, and I have no doubt that this thread that you have been so brave to put out there will show you this, and more.

Sending you a big bloke hug from the other side of the world, you have a friend right here

Sincere condolences, Cayman Docker. Please keep on, with us all.
You too, Raz. You showed courage in speaking out. You are a courageous person.

 

[MadMac]

Look after yourself mate. I went away from here (and social media in general) for few years after my divorce, simply because I didn’t want my grumpy self taking my frustrations out on someone else here who has nothing to do with my predicament.
DM is open, not just for you but anyone who wants to just talk. And get off the piss, it doesn’t help (in case you like a drink)

 

[BettercallSaul]

I want to thank everyone who commented . It rebuilds my faith in people . Bless you all

You have friends here Raz, remember that. Sure some of us you would avoid in the street but friends never the less.

 

[Raz]

Today is a lot better . thanks to all

SOmetimes it just takes a little affirmation from others to rebuild our own self worth.

I know the strong will tell you that you shouldnt need others to build you up. But i am weak and admit it openly. and i need others around me to remind me of who i am in a postive way. instead of all the negativity around

 

[Deadlift Pro]

Brother Raz I don't friends either but I have the gym and my dog so don't need em. Seriously gym is the best friend you can have, nothing feels better than sweating out a heavy weight session and getting a great pump on. Posting from the gym right now I feel great. All the best brother.

 

[Stinky Lomax]

Today is a lot better . thanks to all

SOmetimes it just takes a little affirmation from others to rebuild our own self worth.

I know the strong will tell you that you shouldnt need others to build you up. But i am weak and admit it openly. and i need others around me to remind me of who i am in a postive way. instead of all the negativity around

Hey Raz, I’m so pleased you’re feeling better today. You have people who worry about you, even on here & I was thinking a lot about you last night & this morning.

Even the strong & leaders need affirmation to continue to be strong so don’t think that’s a negative.

We all have strengths that others don’t so we’ll always be strong in some ways.

Keep working at it & if you need time off here, go for it you’ll be missed & even if you just come back to read this thread, it’ll be good to have you back.

There’s plenty on here willing to listen, so always reach out.

 

[Raz]

Brother Raz I don't friends either but I have the gym and my dog so don't need em. Seriously gym is the best friend you can have, nothing feels better than sweating out a heavy weight session and getting a great pump on. Posting from the gym right now I feel great. All the best brother.

Good for you. But i do need friends. as i truly dont like being alone.

Being alone leads me to dark corners .

So if used to go to gym with my son and or my wife. but once that all ended then havent been back

I didnt goto gym to exercise. just to be with people

 

[DQ 4EVER]

Good luck to you, Raz
I hope it works out for you.
Be safe. Be well. Please be well

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[Quazar2]

Raz,

I just lost my wife, unexpectedly. My teenagers just lost a mum. I’m only getting back to some form of normality now (well not really). What the hell was normal anyway?

It’s good to talk about hardships, and all credit to you that you have done that here, it takes some Josh Treacy sized balls to open up like you have.

Don’t give up my friend. In our loss, there has been an overwhelming level of support that is testament to the human spirit to be there and protect each other, and I have no doubt that this thread that you have been so brave to put out there will show you this, and more.

Sending you a big bloke hug from the other side of the world, you have a friend right here

My wife had cancer back in 2018, but survived and lived to tell the tale. But I contemplated life without her, because your mind naturally considers these "possibilities". IT must be very hard, that this happened to you and is an example of how life is damn more than just about football. I like to think we're some of the best supporters representing this great game - sadly, not all of us (a game that maddens me no end still with some of its terrible Vic-bias..), but life is still clearly a lot more than your fav footy team winning. I'm so sorry for your loss and your teen kids loss, everyone that it would affect.

We only have to look at the Cam Mac situation, and others before him that once represented the club to know how vulnerable and fragile we all can be. We are all only mortals.

Sometimes life is hard or cruel. We all need to be the best we can be for these moments to cope and grow. Massive condolences to you and all concerned, we appreciate you still being here

 

[FreoGirl]

Raz,

I just lost my wife, unexpectedly. My teenagers just lost a mum. I’m only getting back to some form of normality now (well not really). What the hell was normal anyway?

It’s good to talk about hardships, and all credit to you that you have done that here, it takes some Josh Treacy sized balls to open up like you have.

Don’t give up my friend. In our loss, there has been an overwhelming level of support that is testament to the human spirit to be there and protect each other, and I have no doubt that this thread that you have been so brave to put out there will show you this, and more.

Sending you a big bloke hug from the other side of the world, you have a friend right here

So sorry to hear this x Just wanted to let you know I really enjoy seeing your posts and hearing about your life in such an exotic location.

We all come from different walks of life and experiences, and Freo is what binds us.

 

[FreoGirl]

Good for you. But i do need friends. as i truly dont like being alone.

Being alone leads me to dark corners .

So if used to go to gym with my son and or my wife. but once that all ended then havent been back

I didnt goto gym to exercise. just to be with people

I often see you online late at night because I struggle with sleep. It has always been a comfort knowing someone else is around.

 

[Raz]

I often see you online late at night because I struggle with sleep. It has always been a comfort knowing someone else is around.

due to the time zone difference lol

I only came to BIGFOOTY to share about a TEAM i was involved in (amateur team) I had never heard of BF until a player mentioned it one day.

Then later found the Fremantle boards. Some interesting characters on there.

Then went looking around for other places on BF during the bye week and discovered lots of strange places out there. I am autistic and so never comfortable stepping into new strange forums with no one there i know.

Any way. i am limiting my time and where i post at present as i noticed still a number of places i used to post they still talkign about me and belittling the fact i was so weak i had to quit their forum

Hmmmm no wonder so many teens commit suicide, the world is full of Bullies who think what they type is just a "joke" and the weak should just "harden up"

We need a change. but sadly that change is not going to occur in our lifetimes.

 

[FreoGirl]

due to the time zone difference lol

I only came to BIGFOOTY to share about a TEAM i was involved in (amateur team) I had never heard of BF until a player mentioned it one day.

Then later found the Fremantle boards. Some interesting characters on there.

Then went looking around for other places on BF during the bye week and discovered lots of strange places out there. I am autistic and so never comfortable stepping into new strange forums with no one there i know.

Any way. i am limiting my time and where i post at present as i noticed still a number of places i used to post they still talkign about me and belittling the fact i was so weak i had to quit their forum

Hmmmm no wonder so many teens commit suicide, the world is full of Bullies who think what they type is just a "joke" and the weak should just "harden up"

We need a change. but sadly that change is not going to occur in our lifetimes.

I think I know what you might be talking about. Never let online bullies become a measure of your self worth.

When we post something on social media we sometimes have no concept of how it might impact someone else.

 

[Raz]

I think I know what you might be talking about. Never let online bullies become a measure of your self worth.

When we post something on social media we sometimes have no concept of how it might impact someone else.

oh that might be true for some and you can tell those people who make ACCIDENTAL stuff ups

But too many on BG forum are only herre to destroy . and sadly their is no action taken except a MOD saying "This forum might not be for you", or "it was jsut a joke get over it"

So while my real life sucks. Online is my only source of entertainment .

And then for these BULLIES to be applauded by other posters it just shows me the world is in BAD place

 

[Kram]

I sometimes just take a week or 2 off and I don't even look at the site for that time, think I've done it 3 times this year.

Just good to have a break and you get more productive stuff in your spare time.

 

[mightymouse75]

Today is a lot better . thanks to all

SOmetimes it just takes a little affirmation from others to rebuild our own self worth.

I know the strong will tell you that you shouldnt need others to build you up. But i am weak and admit it openly. and i need others around me to remind me of who i am in a postive way. instead of all the negativity around

The "strong" may have been built up all their lives with positive affirmations from family's and mentors.
Be kind to yourself brother.
The "strong" might be bottling up some serious shit that comes out in ways that **** their lives up and those around them..
Hurt people hurt people is my go to if I ever feel triggered by someone else's words or actions.

I was 40 before I realised men were allowed to cry, talk to friends about vulnerabilities and be my sensitive self around others.
It changed my life forever.
Still learning to let shit go and be one a better person.
Always learning.
There is no end game, it's all about the journey.
That's for reaching out and inspiring me to continue mine..

 

[FreoRicci]

Good for you. But i do need friends. as i truly dont like being alone.

Being alone leads me to dark corners .

So if used to go to gym with my son and or my wife. but once that all ended then havent been back

I didnt goto gym to exercise. just to be with people

That’s really really relatable.
The fact you don’t like negativity, yet don’t like being alone means you care, means you want help to be happy. Some people don’t reach that level of understanding.

The fact you have reached out and created a thread on this forum. You should be commended and really respected. Feel like mental health isn’t spoken much on here, especially between us Fremantle fans. The club is often an outlet for that. I know it is for me.

All the best, Raz. Take time out, don’t be so hard on yourself and enjoy the journey when you find yourself down and out.

 

[FreoGirl]

oh that might be true for some and you can tell those people who make ACCIDENTAL stuff ups

But too many on BG forum are only herre to destroy . and sadly their is no action taken except a MOD saying "This forum might not be for you", or "it was jsut a joke get over it"

So while my real life sucks. Online is my only source of entertainment .

And then for these BULLIES to be applauded by other posters it just shows me the world is in BAD place

is this part of the FA groups?

 

[FreoGirl]

We lost a much loved Freo player this year - it should inspire us to become more loving and more aware of those around us who are struggling. Telling someone to "toughen up" is not the answer.

 

[Raz]

is this part of the FA groups?

not going to bad mouth groups . it is nt hte majority of people . it is only individuals. they dont know i having a bad life, but that is the whole point,

Everyone should treatal lwith respect. even the ones we disagree with. If you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all. your one comment meant in fun, may be the hair that breaks the camels back and leads to drastic events.

Think people. Care .

 

[anchor man]

Hey Raz, sorry to hear you will be leaving.
I was like you many years ago wmen I first joined this site.So many Fckn dikc heads.. I had a life and still do, and have learnt how to handle the sheeit that goes on.
Every site has the DHs.
But the main thing is what you want to do. It shouldn't be becuase of theose DHs.
I ahve not always agreed with your posts, but sites like this don't operate with out differing views.
Sad to see good posters forced to leave.
Stay safe and look after yourself and your health.
And as thet used to say on Beverely Hillbillies... "Ya' ll come now , ya hear".
Be safe.Will await your return and may it be soon.

 

[Raz]

Hey Raz, sorry to hear you will be leaving.
I was like you many years ago wmen I first joined this site.So many Fckn dikc heads.. I had a life and still do, and have learnt how to handle the sheeit that goes on.
Every site has the DHs.
But the main thing is what you want to do. It shouldn't be becuase of theose DHs.
I ahve not always agreed with your posts, but sites like this don't operate with out differing views.
Sad to see good posters forced to leave.
Stay safe and look after yourself and your health.
And as thet used to say on Beverely Hillbillies... "Ya' ll come now , ya hear".
Be safe.Will await your return and may it be soon.

Thanks Dude. YEs we have different perspectives on the footbal lworld and other items but we never resorted to calling the other names or making accusations about personalities

I have no issues with people telling me i am wrong. i am wrong often

But i will give my opinion and why i have that opinion


But some are jsut trolls and some of those TROLLS are MODERATORS of the the forums so no one else is brave enough to make a stand

This is why i left one particualr group as i didnt want to start a fight

But i am encouraged by the support in here and see some good to keep me round. probably a couple more days and i will return to the FREO Forum threads.


Remember all. Dont shoot the wounded. Someday you maybe one.

 

[FreoGirl]

not going to bad mouth groups . it is nt hte majority of people . it is only individuals. they dont know i having a bad life, but that is the whole point,

Everyone should treatal lwith respect. even the ones we disagree with. If you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all. your one comment meant in fun, may be the hair that breaks the camels back and leads to drastic events.

Think people. Care .

I think part of the 'culture' of those types of groups is to mock each other, but sometimes that's not remotely fun if you are on the receiving end. Stay with us for the rollercoaster ride towards finals.

 

[Kram]

I think part of the 'culture' of those types of groups is to mock each other, but sometimes that's not remotely fun if you are on the receiving end. Stay with us for the rollercoaster ride towards finals.

There's a common type that's really brave hiding behind a computer screen and an alias. But if you crossed them in real life they wouldn't say squat and are likely in the light of the day just losers.