Arts & Humanities The Things That Make You Sad Thread

[raskolnikov]

I was cuddling my 3 year old Westie last night and got sad about how dogs don't last forever

I had to get one of mine down last year and my other one is not too far off. Sucks.

 

[raskolnikov]

Footy. When the Roos went downhill initially, I was shitty. North had been decent, if not quite good in the years prior.

2 or so years ago it became funny, because it was absurd how bad things had started to get. That period was almost great - there was no expectation and when something occasionally went right it was good for a laugh.

Now I feel like it's fully wrapped around again, and it makes me genuinely sad that something I used to really enjoy has been ruined for me lol

At least you've won a final in the last 20 yesrs.

 

[Engimal v3]

Dad has been a bricklayer since he was 15 (60 now) and is probably going to have to retire from it due to sciatica. Poor bugger has never used a computer in his life (literally), so he'd have no chance of transitioning to office work.

 

[Cuzz09]

he probably won't want to sit all day anyway, worse thing for your back



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[Engimal v3]

he probably won't want to sit all day anyway, worse thing for your back



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Sitting isn't so bad, it's the twisting and turning that triggers it. He's fine to just lay bricks, but mixing up mortar and everything is what does most of the damage.

I think he's having a meeting next week with an organization that helps with older people transitioning to new work.

 

[troybe]

Vale Graham Thorpe. 55 yo way too young

 

[Billy ray]

Vale Jack Karlson, he was just eating a succulent Chinese meal

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[Stan_Darsh72]

Vale Jack Karlson, he was just eating a succulent Chinese meal

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This nation lost an icon today.

This is Democracy Manifest.

 

[RU_]

Sitting isn't so bad, it's the twisting and turning that triggers it. He's fine to just lay bricks, but mixing up mortar and everything is what does most of the damage.

I think he's having a meeting next week with an organization that helps with older people transitioning to new work.

If he did want to transition to office work, I’ve worked with some people who are extremely challenged by technology, it can all be taught.

There are standing desks too!

 

[RU_]

Will make an addition to this thread.

Relationships that appear to be on the way out. We are heading towards 5 years and are currently having a week to think about if we want to continue, instigated by my partner who wants to call it quits. Feels like we have hit a Y on our journey, she’s gone left and I’ve gone right in our general lives.

This is my first ‘serious’ relationship and I’m pretty anxious, nervous and affected by the situation, knowing I’m almost 30 and would essentially be starting again, let alone sorting out the mortgage/house, animals, etc. Not withstanding the fact that I love her and the relationship when it’s travelling well, the last few months have been extremely shit however and neither of us would want to stay in this relationship if it continues like that.

I struggled for so long with relationships as people who knew younger RU_ are aware, and thought I had found that forever person, however it doesn’t look like that’s the case and it’s definitely affecting me more than I expected as it’s not on bad terms.

 

[Off The Couch]

I’m sorry to hear this RU_
Have you thought about some counselling or doing a big reset and starting again to find what it was that connected you both in the first place
Sometimes we just fall in to bad habits and start taking one another for granted and forget that it’s not always jobs, mortgages and bills

 

[RU_]

I’m sorry to hear this RU_
Have you thought about some counselling or doing a big reset and starting again to find what it was that connected you both in the first place
Sometimes we just fall in to bad habits and start taking one another for granted and forget that it’s not always jobs, mortgages and bills

Thanks OTC.

Have suggested this as well. She’s concerned that she can’t look past a few things I’ve said that she’s taken in a different way to what I meant and resents me for it. If she doesn’t want to talk these through with a professional I don’t see a way forward, personally.

 

[MP_]

Thanks OTC.

Have suggested this as well. She’s concerned that she can’t look past a few things I’ve said that she’s taken in a different way to what I meant and resents me for it. If she doesn’t want to talk these through with a professional I don’t see a way forward, personally.

I’d also be really pushing the counselling if possible. Forgiveness of things that are said and done can be extremely hard for both yourself and partner and that is ultimately what needs to happen. Holding onto things will only make it fester. Even if you could get her to talk about it to a close friend or family rather than a counsellor.

 

[RU_]

I’d also be really pushing the counselling if possible. Forgiveness of things that are said and done can be extremely hard for both yourself and partner and that is ultimately what needs to happen. Holding onto things will only make it fester. Even if you could get her to talk about it to a close friend or family rather than a counsellor.

I’d prefer if it was to a councillor, the general gist of what I said ~2 years ago was:
When we first started dating I was attracted to someone who trained, ate healthy, cared about health and fitness, etc as it’s a massive part of my life and is in general a positive environment. That has shifted on her side and she doesn’t train, doesn’t track food, etc and I admitted I found that ‘trait’ to not be an attraction to me. I’ve on countless occasions confirmed that I don’t mean physically, and that I mean it by the way of lifestyle and the environment we live within.

Understandably she has taken that as me saying I’m not attracted to her, which I’ve told her is not what I’m saying repeatedly, but she’s just latched onto it for 2 years now and resets me for making her feel like shit.

Essentially she doesn’t think that I can provide the environment that she requires and she can’t provide the environment that I require. I have gotten past the fact that her interests differ from what they did almost 5 years ago, and she has expressed interest in running now but has some medical conditions that require treating first for her to be able to run a marathon or whatever she wants to do, but every time she says ‘I can’t because of x’ and I suggest she gets the ball rolling with a specialist appointment, she doesn’t want to. I did suggest the other night that ‘WE’ book the specialist appointment and I will go with her, but that was met with her saying she just wants to end it and move on essentially.

I’m hoping a professional could help express that better than I can. I probably sound like a campaigner based on the above, but I promise I don’t intend it the way you’re thinking and as you can imagine, when she speaks to her family and friends I’d get portrayed in a very bad light based on the above.

 

[Quivorir]

You don't sound like a campaigner mate but it does sound like the ship has sailed.

 

[MP_]

I’d prefer if it was to a councillor, the general gist of what I said ~2 years ago was:
When we first started dating I was attracted to someone who trained, ate healthy, cared about health and fitness, etc as it’s a massive part of my life and is in general a positive environment. That has shifted on her side and she doesn’t train, doesn’t track food, etc and I admitted I found that ‘trait’ to not be an attraction to me. I’ve on countless occasions confirmed that I don’t mean physically, and that I mean it by the way of lifestyle and the environment we live within.

Understandably she has taken that as me saying I’m not attracted to her, which I’ve told her is not what I’m saying repeatedly, but she’s just latched onto it for 2 years now and resets me for making her feel like shit.

Essentially she doesn’t think that I can provide the environment that she requires and she can’t provide the environment that I require. I have gotten past the fact that her interests differ from what they did almost 5 years ago, and she has expressed interest in running now but has some medical conditions that require treating first for her to be able to run a marathon or whatever she wants to do, but every time she says ‘I can’t because of x’ and I suggest she gets the ball rolling with a specialist appointment, she doesn’t want to. I did suggest the other night that ‘WE’ book the specialist appointment and I will go with her, but that was met with her saying she just wants to end it and move on essentially.

I’m hoping a professional could help express that better than I can. I probably sound like a campaigner based on the above, but I promise I don’t intend it the way you’re thinking and as you can imagine, when she speaks to her family and friends I’d get portrayed in a very bad light based on the above.

I feel for you mate as it is sounding like she doesn’t want to attempt to fix anything but is taking the route of it’s over. Maybe others are feeding her feelings too which makes reconciliation harder. I totally understand your attraction stance , there’s things in my relationship that I don’t like but I know that makes up a small part of what is great in our relationship. I hope you can make her see things from your perspective.

 

[Off The Couch]

Hmmm
“We” is the issue - I’d be pissed if my partner made that suggestion and we’ve been together for a VERY long time. She obviously has a reason for not having gone to the docs yet and yes it’s an excuse that she’s using but that’s her prerogative.

And tbh it does sound like you have an issue with the “heathy lifestyle” component and she’s probably wondering “what happens if I have a baby and can’t get that body back” or what happens if I put on weight

And you probably need to give that a long thought

 

[Cruyff14]

My parent's house - the family home - which mum and dad bought in 1981, and I spent 29 years of my life in, is on the market.

Too big for my mum to maintain now since my dad died. It's for the best but it's still sad.

 

[Off The Couch]

My parent's house - the family home - which mum and dad bought in 1981, and I spent 29 years of my life in, is on the market.

Too big for my mum to maintain now since my dad died. It's for the best but it's still sad.

Think packing up first the family home and then my mums unit was one of the toughest things I’ve done

 

[Dogs_R_Us]

Think packing up first the family home and then my mums unit was one of the toughest things I’ve done

We had one week to empty my late FIL’s house which had been sold with immediate settlement. (He was in care at that stage.) I still don’t know how we did it.

 

[Big Sauce 21]

10 year old girl found dead with her throat slashed, what the actual ****

 

[RedmanWasHere]

My grandma’s dementia.

We’re never gonna book her for a diagnosis but we all know she has it.

She’s in a roughly 6/7 quote loop and has lost complete interest in things.

Couldn’t even remember her kids’ names at some point yesterday.

 

[Dogs_R_Us]

My grandma’s dementia.

We’re never gonna book her for a diagnosis but we all know she has it.

She’s in a roughly 6/7 quote loop and has lost complete interest in things.

Couldn’t even remember her kids’ names at some point yesterday.

Her doctor will notice. Is someone looking after her in her house? Dementia is progressive and there's no way to know how. Eventually it becomes too much for carers to manage

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Dementia is so cruel

 

[Jatz]

Both of Dad's parents have dementia. Been bloody awful watching them go downhill with it.