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In my 37 years, I've lived in 14 houses off the top of my head.
Thats a rate of change every 2.5 years?
Have they always been in the same general area?
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In my 37 years, I've lived in 14 houses off the top of my head.
Three country towns as a kid then in the Eastern/South Eastern suburbs of Melbourne from about aged 10 to now.Thats a rate of change every 2.5 years?
Have they always been in the same general area?
My grandmother's house was sold during covid after she died. Spent over a decade of my life there.My parent's house - the family home - which mum and dad bought in 1981, and I spent 29 years of my life in, is on the market.
Too big for my mum to maintain now since my dad died. It's for the best but it's still sad.
That sucks, moving all the time, in my 49 years I've lived in 7 housesIn my 37 years, I've lived in 14 houses off the top of my head.
My dad worked in radio when I was a kid, that moved us around a bit. Then my parents split up and I was bounced around from house to house for a while. It really was disconcerting.That sucks, moving all the time, in my 49 years I've lived in 7 houses
All I can say apart from sorry is that having ended a relationship after an engagement and having seen friends end relationships after marriage....... and the relationships done.
Pretty devastated as it’s hitting home now.
In a self absorbed way, I’m angry and upset as it feels like I’ve invested so much time, money and effort into something that’s ended when the good part was supposed to begin. Financially supported her through university for 4 years, bought a house in an area that I didn’t like so that we could afford to get her dogs from a previous relationship and basically funded any trips and holidays during this period. She had a small mishap with one of the dogs that ended up with a home insurance claim against me as the mortgage is only in my name, and through all of these things I have remained supportive, never gotten angry and provided support and reassurance that the future will be better once she’s done with university.
University finishes, we are earning good money as a couple and she calls it quits after 6 months. Basically feel like I’ve invested the last 5 years into something that’s just folded and I get nothing out of it.
Now I have a mortgage that’s going to be a struggle to afford, in an area that I don’t like and have to go through the hassle of selling and trying to secure somewhere else to live. If I decide to buy again, I’ve got an home insurance claim against my name for something that had no real relation to me, which isn’t going to affect her in any way and the rental market is currently ****ed. Meanwhile she’s going to a perfect situation where a friend is breaking a lease and she can just up and shift. She’s said she’s going to try and financially support me through this as she knows I did it to help, but we’ll see how that goes as she has a lease to pay for.
In a weird way though, she said she has to do what’s best for her and I completely understand that and wish her the best for the future.
This really hurts though. I feel like all I have gotten out of this is life lessons. Hopefully young RU_ has learnt a thing or two over the last ~5 years.
Also just realised this is a hell of a vent, well done if you made it to the end.
.. and the relationships done.
Pretty devastated as it’s hitting home now.
In a self absorbed way, I’m angry and upset as it feels like I’ve invested so much time, money and effort into something that’s ended when the good part was supposed to begin. Financially supported her through university for 4 years, bought a house in an area that I didn’t like so that we could afford to get her dogs from a previous relationship and basically funded any trips and holidays during this period. She had a small mishap with one of the dogs that ended up with a home insurance claim against me as the mortgage is only in my name, and through all of these things I have remained supportive, never gotten angry and provided support and reassurance that the future will be better once she’s done with university.
University finishes, we are earning good money as a couple and she calls it quits after 6 months. Basically feel like I’ve invested the last 5 years into something that’s just folded and I get nothing out of it.
Now I have a mortgage that’s going to be a struggle to afford, in an area that I don’t like and have to go through the hassle of selling and trying to secure somewhere else to live. If I decide to buy again, I’ve got an home insurance claim against my name for something that had no real relation to me, which isn’t going to affect her in any way and the rental market is currently ****ed. Meanwhile she’s going to a perfect situation where a friend is breaking a lease and she can just up and shift. She’s said she’s going to try and financially support me through this as she knows I did it to help, but we’ll see how that goes as she has a lease to pay for.
In a weird way though, she said she has to do what’s best for her and I completely understand that and wish her the best for the future.
This really hurts though. I feel like all I have gotten out of this is life lessons. Hopefully young RU_ has learnt a thing or two over the last ~5 years.
Also just realised this is a hell of a vent, well done if you made it to the end.
We put the other one down not long after the incident.Weird random question, but did she take the dogs
We put the other one down not long after the incident.
She will be, but works FIFO a few days a week and hasn’t worked out how to make that situation work, so I’ve said I’ll look after the dog temporarily.
I’m my own worst enemy, I know.
I have a number of childless and partner-less friends who I think about too. I don't know how old you are but it's never too late to find someone, I've seen it happen. Maybe when you aren't even looking. Keep your social life going, look after your physical and mental health, stay involved. Pets make wonderful companions too. And also look after your finances.Things that have made me a bit sad but only as I’ve gotten older.
Not having a family (due to abuse of various kinds) makes it hard for me on days like fathers/mothers day and Christmas. I have wonderful friends who invite me over for Xmas but I’d be lying if it didn’t sting a bit sometimes seeing their families all getting around each other on special occasions, because I’ve never understood what that felt like and now that I’m a bit older I wish things were different sometimes.
I’m not in a relationship (almost on the verge of never wanting another one) and I don’t want kids, so I’ve started wondering what the heck happens to me when I get older. Who is going to look after me if I needed care? What do I want to happen to my body when I pass on?
It doesn’t really play on my mind all that much, only on days like today. And it does hurt.
I know it's small bananas against everything else you've got going on but if there's a tiny silver lining it's that this isn't really a thing and I don't think you need to worry about it affecting anything. People make insurance claims all the time.If I decide to buy again, I’ve got an home insurance claim against my name