Society & Culture Things in life you just don't understand - Part 3

[Shell]

Lol

 

[Bomberboyokay]

My dad and mum would sometimes give us a whack across the bum (and dad would pull my hair when i was being a srs campaigner) but that was about it. Oh yeah wooden spoon.

Dad sounds like a prick.

 

[Bomberboyokay]

Smacking isn't "violence".

Good grief

 

[perthblue]

Smacking your kids is lazy, and is something parents do purely out of anger rather than as a disciplinary tactic.

 

[Kram]

Oh oh here we go..

 

[Shell]

Oh oh here we go..

Yeah im staying out.

Home time anyway!!! das it.

 

[Bomberboyokay]

Smacking your kids is lazy, and is something parents do purely out of anger rather than as a disciplinary tactic.

Correct.

 

[perthblue]

I copped a smack/wooden spoon a few times as a kid and survived without a safe space and counselling.

watch out, we got a bad ass over here

it always perplexes me when adults brag about being smacked as children

may as well say

"my parents had an uncontrollable temper"

 

[Scotland]

It's not bragging, it's acknowledgment that panties are being unnecessarily bunched. I'm not Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting, quite the opposite. That's the point.

Parents yell at kids. Parents smack kids. Parents take kids toys away. Parents send kids to their rooms. None of this is breaking the UN human rights convention FFS. How many of these things should be banned because the extreme end of the scale is bad?

Some people (who blame their parents for being a fat shit that eats junk food) want to spin smacking a kid as some violent act born out of rage. Give me a spell. Part of your job as a parent is to set boundaries and establish that actions have consequences. If you don't believe in smacking then don't, but others do. Parents who sit there and try and reason with 2 1/2 year olds like they are Masters students while they run around doing whatever they please are infuriating.

 

[Gough]

I'd like to think I'd raise a kid to learn that violence is not the answer and raising your hand at them when you get angry is not a great way of demonstrating this.

 

[Perth gal]

If you need to cause physical harm to another human being, irrespective of what your reason is , then you need to take a long look in the mirror.

 

[Beerfish]

I'd like to think I'd raise a kid to learn that violence is not the answer and raising your hand at them when you get angry is not a great way of demonstrating this.

I agree.

Hence the wooden spoon.

 

[Shell]

Dad sounds like a prick.

He is!

But not cause of smacking

We get along great now tho

 

[Bomberboyokay]

He is!

But not cause of smacking

We get along great now tho

He pulled your hair!

 

[Gough]

I agree.

Hence the wooden spoon.

Corporal punishment was too much like hard work for my folks.

 

[Shell]

He pulled your hair!

Only once or twice srs

But yeah do not pull girls hair it fking hurts and is not good

 

[gaskin]

Corporal punishment was too much like hard work for my folks.

This your folks?

 

[peternorth]

Smacking your kids is lazy, and is something parents do purely out of anger rather than as a disciplinary tactic.

friends in close proximity scoffed at another family who's child is involved in extra cirricular activities (learning to play an instrument, language other than english). asked why they scoffed, parents of close proximity family said "we want our kids to be more rounded rather than being book worms. Rather they learn playing outside".

Few points about said family
- when kids were much younger, parents declared they wouldn't let them use ipads. Now they do
- kids don't do homework. i never ask why, it is what it is, kids are great kids.
- asked why do people "force" kids to learn an instrument.


Hmmmm. maybe the parents are lazy.

 

[Gough]

This your folks?

Nothing like that, they were too busy with their own lives and we were pretty independent kids.

 

[perthblue]

friends in close proximity scoffed at another family who's child is involved in extra cirricular activities (learning to play an instrument, language other than english). asked why they scoffed, parents of close proximity family said "we want our kids to be more rounded rather than being book worms. Rather they learn playing outside".

Few points about said family
- when kids were much younger, parents declared they wouldn't let them use ipads. Now they do
- kids don't do homework. i never ask why, it is what it is, kids are great kids.
- asked why do people "force" kids to learn an instrument.


Hmmmm. maybe the parents are lazy.

I'm not sure what your point is here?

 

[JackOutback]

In general of course physical violence is terrible. All im saying a swift smack aint gonna hurt anyone.

And tbh its not like i would "go to" that ALL the time. Would be only once in a while thing.

A swift smack 'ain't gonna hurt anyone'. But it does teach children that there's a time and a place for hitting someone.

It's also rarely a considered approach, it's usually an act of frustration or anger, which suggests the parent has lost control. Certainly not a good starting point. I haven't hit my kids once and I'm not going to. There's tons of options for disciplining children that doesn't require a whack.

 

[Shell]

A swift smack 'ain't gonna hurt anyone'. But it does teach children that there's a time and a place for hitting someone.

It's also rarely a considered approach, it's usually an act of frustration or anger, which suggests the parent has lost control. Certainly not a good starting point. I haven't hit my kids once and I'm not going to. There's tons of options for disciplining children that doesn't require a whack.

And thats your choice.

 

[JackOutback]

And thats your choice.

The idea that striking your kids is a parenting choice is odd. I mean, I see plenty of misbehaving adults that could do with a swift clip, but interestingly, we have legislation that prevents me from doing so. Something about the other person's right not be hit.

At best, smacking children is a poor disciplinary tactic that doesn't cause any obvious long-term harm (though I find it interesting that my friends who do smack their kids are surprised that he is constantly hitting kids at school and getting into trouble).

 

[Bomberboyokay]

The idea that striking your kids is a parenting choice is odd. I mean, I see plenty of misbehaving adults that could do with a swift clip, but interestingly, we have legislation that prevents me from doing so. Something about the other person's right not be hit.

At best, smacking children is a poor disciplinary tactic that doesn't cause any obvious long-term harm (though I find it interesting that my friends who do smack their kids are surprised that he is constantly hitting kids at school and getting into trouble).

Also, funny how the smacking stops around the age a kid would go "**** you" and smack them back.

 

[Shell]

Jesus I'm done.

Alot of ppl up on their high horses itt.