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Brownlow Medallist
Just for the record if I was mate 2, I would want to know.
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Yes, but why should OP be the one to put himself in the firing line? That is my argument.. Essentially it is up to him but we seem so focussed on outing those who do wrong at the expense of those who might be better off not knowing - mate 2 might be crushed by this.. does he deserve to be having done nothing wrong? It's the devil's advocate position breaking the groupthink. I'm happy to see arguments come back as a result ... means I'm making you reason your point of view
Of course. Illinois Nazi's approach is the best. It's perfect.
I would be. But I would also want to know why OP didn't tell me sooner.And he ******* should be crushed by this. The girl he just proposed to has been ******* one of his mates behind his back for over a year. Better to feel heartbroken for a little while than to build a marraige based on a devasting lie. He deserves better.
I hate to break it to you, but if you're being mentally affected so greatly by this after a decade and haven't been able deal with it yourself, then you aren't much different to these so called 'mentally weak' people you refer to....2) I saw some horrifically violent deaths when I was around 17-18, have had night terror's ever since (now 28), thought it would go away over time, they haven't. Only my missus knows about it because it's hard to ignore the fact that I wake up screaming/shaking in my sleep all that sort of stuff. She wants me to see a professional about it, I think that stuff is for weak people, and I don't want to admit that I'm mentally weak.
May I suggest a different option: now that mate 1 is gone, take your turn and bang the missus of mate 2.1) My mate (mate 1) has been banging another mates (mate 2) missus for about a year, told me about it when he was hammered, said he kept trying to end it, but Mate 2's missus wouldn't let it end, and kept threatening to out him about it if he stopped seeing her on the sly. Mate 1 has just recently moved overseas with his missus, primarily to get away from Mate 2's missus because he couldn't stop doing it. Mate 2 proposed to his cheating dog of missus last weekend (she said yes ...) feel it is my obligation to tell Mate 2 about this, but that would directly betray Mate 1, although given his form, does he deserve any sympathy in this regard?
Are we supposed to be giving the OP advice or posting our own secrets and lies?
Maybe not the technically correct use of the word. I don't think many people will have a problem with the use of it in this case though. She's having a long term affair before they're even married and you don't think he should warn his mate... you know what a mate is right?I am talking about with another guy who is not mate 1. 'She is a ****' - pretty sweeping statement.. you know what a **** is right?
Yes which is why for a mate it is a tricky situation for some of the reasons I have already outlined in this thread.Maybe not the technically correct use of the word. I don't think many people will have a problem with the use of it in this case though. She's having a long term affair before they're even married and you don't think he should warn his mate... you know what a mate is right?
OP needs to do this now and post results.Tell his missus that you know, and if she doesn't tell him you will.
I would be. But I would also want to know why OP didn't tell me sooner.
There's more complexities to this than just posthumously doing the right thing; can you not see that?
How do you know he will be heartbroken for a "little while" what happens if it crushes him for years and has trust issues for the rest of his life? Does he deserve that?